You wrote:
“...if for nothing else than the fact that our beautiful daughter loves Him and His Word because of the way she is being raised.”
I believe you are sincere, but here’s the problem: How can you be raising her right if you’re telling her she can have sex before marriage (if she goes by your example)? No where in scripture, or tradition, do you find any support for that. Saying that to you is not sanctimony on our part. It is simply the truth.
“I personally find sanctimony a far worse sin than cohabiting.”
Sexual sins are not the worst sins. Murder, of course, is worse than fornication. But that doesn’t mean fornication isn’t a sin.
It is stunning to me how people who consider themselves Christians routinely deny that sin is sin. Then again: http://www.amazon.com/Nobody-Calls-Anymore-Kenneth-Roberts/dp/0879739150
Sexual sins are not the worst sins. Murder, of course, is worse than fornication. But that doesn’t mean fornication isn’t a sin.Over fifty million babies in heaven agree with you.