The feminizing of Christianity is part of the problem - the other part is the 'liberalization' of Christianity... Some churches feel like they're extensions of the democrat party...
A lot of why men stay away is that the church is compromised. We teach accomodation, instead of protection.
If the church would quit compromising with the world and would work to protect doctrine, men would return.
We need to have church warriors if we want men to be in the church.