Posted on 03/19/2012 5:40:43 PM PDT by infool7
Two weeks ago after an argument, our 18 year old son left home and moved in with his 17 year old girlfriend and her divorced mother. He has been the model son, always kind and polite to everyone. Once he started dating her, about two years ago, his attitude towards our family began to slowly change. He started losing his long time friends, breaking his curfew and lying about his whereabouts. He had never mistreated us before this, now he is verbally abusive towards his mom and sisters and will not speak to me.
Keep sending him love and mercy every day and know that it will bear fruit. Love never fails. This will make you feel better too. Expectation is powerful. Be smart about your expectations and let them work FOR you.
I am sorry. This too shall pass. Stay strong. If there is anything you have to apologize for, do so. Then hold your ground.
An 18 year-old boy should not be living with a 17 year-old girl. Remain respectful, but the girl’s mother sounds like a real problem and enabler.
Perhaps he doesn’t speak to you because deep-down he himself is confused - and ashamed.
All I can say is try to remain calm, stay in contact with your son, be rational and be consistent. There are no magic bullets. Have seen very similar things with my own brothers and sisters. Be hopeful - Things will always turn around if your values are clear and you act out of love.
My God give you wisdom and strength!
Praying for Liam and your family down here in Texas. Infool7, I ran across a great Psalm this past Sunday while waiting for church to begin:
Psalm 34:19...”The righteous person faces many troubles, but the LORD comes to the rescue each time.”
Keep the faith and keep praying. God will bring him back.
Prayer bump
Your needs are no less then anyone else. Keep grounded in HIS word to the best of your ability. Perhaps for the time being do indulge yourself in the thought, you acted according to scripture. It is pleasing to HIM. I won’t take it beyond that.
You know your right. We ARE a family. We fight between each other, we talk, we comment. But in the end most of us are together.
We have the same hopes and desires for our great country. And we have feelings for our FRiends.
Your difficulties may be small but they are large to you. And that makes them large to us.
I may be wrong, but I think things will work out for you all.
And one way or the other God will be will all of you.
And so will we.
I recommend the David Lean movie “This happy Breed,” based on the Noel Coward play. An ordinary, conventional English family, is followed from 1919 to 1939. There is a subplot there that will give you some comfort, I think. God does things in his own time and way.
Praying for you. That is a rough age. At 18 I joined the Mormon church and moved out and didn’t tell my family (I moved to Utah to go to BYU). It took years for the wounds I made to heal. I pray that your son comes to his senses soon.
I agree; after reading this family’s request, the first thing that popped up in my mind was DRUGS! I have had one neighborhood family that I was once very close to that has totally disintegrated due to illegal drug use! The mother survived (not a user), but lost her husband, children, house and business. I don’t know where she is now...
JC
Prayers up.
Just added to my Netflix streaming list. Thanks!
Lord, our God, be with Liam and his girlfriend and awaken their love to Thee. Teach them ways of chastity and restore their families.
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost, amen.
I am praying for your family.
Hopefully, your son will see the error of his ways and return to you in a short time. These kind of relationships usually don’t last long, because they have no foundation. My only advice is to not lose heart and be sure and welcome him when he returns.
Your family has my prayers.
Prayers for God’s blessings on all.
Praying for Liam and your family.
Sorry to hear of your troubles. I can’t add anymore to what has already been said.
Offering my prayers for your family and son.
Prayers sent.
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