I did not agree with Gore Vidal on many things, but he was clear on the point you made. He said no one is homosexual. And no one is heterosexual. There are simply activities. Some acts are homosexual. Some acts are heterosexual. That’s it. He engaged in homosexual acts, but thought it was silly to classify himself as a homosexual.
What this does is highlight the fallacy of “I was born this way”. It shows that homosexuality is a lifestyle. It’s a choice. It can be fought against, and people can be normal if they choose to be normal. Recognizing the sinfulness of the acts is a good start, but some refuse to do so.
We don’t need to go that far. I wouldn’t say a heterodexual’s attractions and fantasied are one hundred percent heterosexual, but there is a strong connection between desire and action. Show me a man who has sex only with women and I’ll probably see someone who thinks mostly about having sec with only women.
If I ate an apple every morning of my lif there would be nothing wrong or dehumanizing about calling me an apple eater. Likewise, serial homologue or heterosexers can be called with accuracy homosexuals and heterosexuals. Nothing about doing so implies that they aren’t as complex or inscrutable as any human who ever lived.
Which is not to say everyone’s “born that way.” Men in prison prove otherwise, if nothing else.
Sorry, that post was filled with a egregious amount of bad autocorrects.