Posted on 12/18/2012 2:39:33 PM PST by truthczar2000
I believe you are right on this being over the 3 year period. There sure is a lot to be discovered in this matter and hope there will comes signs for others to learn by.
Such a shame, and so many kids like Adam out here still.
I don’t think that not having a Dad at home is the primary reason in all cases when these boys rampage.
I kind of think in this case, it did play a role. This kid obviously had mental problems before his parents divorced. But the divorce did cause a separation, Mom and Dad in different cities. This kid may have felt abandonment by his Dad, and therefore latched on to his mother even stronger. I have heard reports that he was upset with her for the time she was spending as an aide at the school with little kids. Sounds crazy, but in his mind, if he knew she was trying to have him committed to an institution, he was being thrown away by his mother too. This person was antsocial, but he was far from stupid.
He was obviously a very disturbed person most of his life. Add his age and hormones, the video games, the lack of friends to talk to, and I can see a pressure cooker ready to explode.
This in no way justifies or removes his guilt for this tragic nightmare. He committed a terrible crime.
Of course, I am just musing, but something transpired to set him off. He reportedly had never committed a crime before this.
I am reminded by this theory of a fellow with whom I once had a long term business relationship.
He was having a lot of problems with his oldest son. Real problems.
So he sent him to a shrink.
After so long a time, the shrink called the father in for a conference.
The shrink told him that he was traveling too much in relation to his business, which he owned and which operated nation wide, and that he needed to spend more time at home with the family.
So I asked him what was he going to do?
His reply was that he fired the shrink.
He said: “For all I know, I am the problem and staying home would make it worse.”
So no more than we know, we should have nothing to say on that subject.
Other than the father might have seen the wisdom of locking all of the guns up in a manner that was really secure, like finger print recognition gun safe, etc.
I have been personally involved in two matters similar but luckily not ending in murder...at least not yet.
And I can tell you that mothers find it very hard to admit that their child is really that bad.
Yes, but that was the boy's choice, not the father's. I don't think that the boy should have considered he had been abandoned by the father when he (Adam) was the uncooperative party. If he thought otherwise, he had a mental problem. My point is, we will never know the real cause and shouldn't start pointing fingers.
I want you to know that I am not blaming the Dad here. I don’t know why these parents were divorced, and obviously, the older son seems to not be affected. This kid was born a mess. I could understand this easier if he had a history of violence. But he didn’t. It came out of nowhere in the worst of ways.
I think the main thing I am saying is that we tend to, after something like this happens, paint people with a broad brush. Most likely there are many reasons things like this happen.
No other gunowner in America is responsible for this incident. Not all parents who ever divorced are responsible.
Not the whole lot of shrinks and psychologists are responsible. The only person that is, is Adam Lanza.
Doesn’t change the why? It is normal to wonder why.
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