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Would God Approve of ChristianMingle?
The Christian Diarist ^ | February 14, 2013 | JP

Posted on 02/14/2013 3:27:49 PM PST by CHRISTIAN DIARIST

Today is Valentine’s Day. For the happily married among us, it’s probably not that big a deal. Because when you have someone you love, who you’re doing life with, every day is Valentine’s Day.

Things are different for singles looking for love: Those who’ve never experienced holy matrimony. Those who once were married but – for one reason or another – sadly parted ways with their spouse. Those who have lost a beloved husband or wife to illness or other tragedy.

As I reflect upon Valentine’s Day, I am reminded of a sermon I heard a couple years ago while visiting a church in suburban Washington, D.C. The pastor talked about the epidemic of loneliness; about the millions of good men and good women desperate for a Godly relationship who, through no fault of their own, hadn’t found the right person.

The message clearly struck a chord with the singles in the congregation that morning. For I observed many of them gently weeping. And I my heart broke for them.

So what would I suggest today if a lonely heart asked my advice?

I would encourage them to stay in faith; to take comfort in the knowledge that, as the Psalmist wrote, the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

And I would suggest that they check out ChristianMingle.com, the nation’s leading Christian-based dating site, which boasts more than 8 million registered members.

The Washington Post published an attack piece on ChristianMingle last month. Post staff writer Paul Farhi went off on the web site’s slogan, “Find God’s Match For You.”

“How does it know whom God wants to hook you up with?” Farhi mocked. “And is it kosher to invoke God’s name to selling a dating service?” he added, sneered.

Well how does Farhi know what means the Almighty might employ to bring two people together, including a Christian dating site? And when did God anoint the Post writer to authorize (or not authorize) the use of his name in an advertising slogan?

I have no relationship whatsoever with ChristianMingle. But it seems to me the web site is providing a welcome online service to Christ followers who are single, who are looking for someone who shares their faith, with whom they might ultimately share their lives.

The testimony of couples that met through ChristianMingle speak to the dating site’s fulfillment of the promises it advertises.

California couple Anthony and Jessica met last March on ChristianMingle. Though they lived an hour and a half drive away from each other, said Jessica, “we knew God had a bigger plan for our future and so we decided to date despite the distance.”

Oklahoma couple Ryan and Stephanie connected on ChristianMingle last February. “I had been frustrated for a while,” said Ryan, a pastor, “because in my position it is really hard to meet women. So I thought ChristianMingle could be a place where I might be able to find love. I came across the profile of a very beautiful blonde woman with an amazing light about her that totally intrigued me!

Florida couple Kristen and Josh also made a love connection on ChristianMingle a year ago. “We had both been divorced,” said Kristen, a single mom and a solider, “and had concerns about meeting someone new. After a month of exchanging emails, chatting, and talking on the phone, we finally decided to meet. Our first date was a success and we have been together ever since!”

Anthony and Jessica, Ryan and Stephanie and Kristen and Josh all have wedding dates this year. Their success stories, and thousands more like them for which ChristianMingle was the facilitator, suggest to me that God may very well be using the web site to bless lonely Christians looking for love.


TOPICS: Current Events; General Discusssion; Moral Issues; Religion & Culture
KEYWORDS: christianmingle; marriage; onlinedating; valentinesday
If a man and woman find love and marriage by way of online dating, I believe God will bless their union.
1 posted on 02/14/2013 3:27:52 PM PST by CHRISTIAN DIARIST
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

2 posted on 02/14/2013 3:35:37 PM PST by al baby (Hi Mom)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST; Morgana
I know Morgana has an opinion on this.

........................ but at least its not a site where you PAY the woman for a "date"....

3 posted on 02/14/2013 3:37:10 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: hunosehu

You’re not going to see me any time soon and no I have no problem with Christian Mingle.


5 posted on 02/14/2013 3:44:59 PM PST by Fai Mao
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST
“How does it know whom God wants to hook you up with?” Farhi mocked. “And is it kosher to invoke God’s name to selling a dating service?” he added, sneered. “

"Gods match for you" works TWO ways, Farhi. Many people FAIL to hook up with anyone on Christian Mingle. As to the second question (or mock)Why NOT use ons Faith as a basis for meeting? How is this somehow presumptuous?

6 posted on 02/14/2013 3:47:45 PM PST by TalBlack (Evil doesn't have a day job.)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

I met the perfect love of my life through online dating (Match.com). That was in August 2010. We had a blissful, loving and spectacularly fulfilling relationship.

Unfortunately, she died 2-1/2 weeks ago after an eight-month battle with cancer.

But I am very grateful for online dating.


7 posted on 02/14/2013 3:52:40 PM PST by Maceman
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

Color me ignorant of what goes on at ChristianMingle but wouldn’t a dating site of explicitly Christian singles be in the same spirit as a singles mixer at church?

Oh and to answer one of Mr. Fahri’s snyde questions, I would think anyone trying to use a Christian dating site to “hook up” would find himself disappointed.


8 posted on 02/14/2013 3:56:10 PM PST by RightOnTheBorder
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To: Maceman

So sorry for your loss sir


9 posted on 02/14/2013 4:03:25 PM PST by al baby (Hi Mom)
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To: al baby

LOL


10 posted on 02/14/2013 4:20:56 PM PST by CatherineofAragon (Support Christian white males---the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization)
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To: Maceman

Condolences on your loss.....God bless


11 posted on 02/14/2013 4:22:52 PM PST by CatherineofAragon (Support Christian white males---the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization)
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To: Maceman

God be with you, Christian friend.


12 posted on 02/14/2013 4:34:01 PM PST by CHRISTIAN DIARIST
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST
God be with you, Christian friend.

I'm actually not Christian, but I sincerely thank you for your condolences.

13 posted on 02/14/2013 4:52:47 PM PST by Maceman
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

Valentine’s Day = A purely made up retail holiday with no basis in tradition whatsoever, supposedly celebrating a virtually unknown 4th century saint who’s identity is uncertain, and possibly a pagan holiday. But no one is really sure.

So go out and buy a heart shaped box of chocolates and some flowers, or maybe some jewelry if you know what’s good for you.


14 posted on 02/14/2013 5:07:31 PM PST by Chuckster (The longer I live the less I care about what you think.)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

No problem with the site. I do wish, however, that people were still able to create long-lasting relationships without the internet. It’s becoming a lost art.


15 posted on 02/14/2013 5:34:44 PM PST by Viennacon
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To: Maceman

I an so sorry to hear of your wife’s passing. At least with the online matchup, you both found a Christian mate in time to have known and loved each other. I will pray for you and both extended families.


16 posted on 02/14/2013 5:35:57 PM PST by rightly_dividing
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To: Maceman

I am so sorry you lost the love of your life. How painful for you and sometimes it’s so hard to remember that God says he will never give you anything you can’t handle. May you have pleasant sleep and feel her and God both near.


17 posted on 02/14/2013 5:37:23 PM PST by Grams A (The Sun will rise in the East in the morning and God is still on his throne.)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST
Christian Mingle - online "Christian" dating??

What's next, Christian Bathhouse?

18 posted on 02/14/2013 5:43:23 PM PST by Tau Food (Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

My uncle, about three years after the death of his wife, started on-line dating. He met a widowed lady two states away, they chatted, they met, they dated, he proposed, they got married. It’s been six years now and they are still happy together. Might they have met some other way? Possible but not likely.


19 posted on 02/14/2013 5:46:26 PM PST by Harmless Teddy Bear (Promotional Fee Paid for by "Ouchies" The Sharp, Prickly Toy You Bathe With!)
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To: GeronL; CHRISTIAN DIARIST

christianmingle was not the site I got booted from.

So I don’t know if the people there are anti-Catholic, support gay marriage and are pro birth control. Now they said they were anti abortion but if they are pro birth control then they already have their foot in the abortion clinic if you all know what I mean.

Oh and did I also fail to say that over half I’d never be able to marry in this life time because they are DIVORCED? Yep they kinda found Jesus after their divorce it would seem. So with the protestants on that site marriage is for better, for worse but not for life.

Then because over half are divorced they all have children to which they say “my child comes first”. Have no problem with this, glad to see you take care of your responsibility. However that kinda makes me feel like an outsider coming into that family unit. Plus the first time I correct that child for something he/she does wrong the child will run to the biological parent and call me “the wicked stepmother” Sorry everyone I don’t need this crap. I don’t want some divorced man or his extra baggage.

Widowers are okay however. Even ones with children, because there is no biological mother to run to and make me the wicked stepmother.


20 posted on 02/14/2013 5:47:12 PM PST by Morgana (This space for rent.)
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To: Morgana

bump


21 posted on 02/14/2013 5:52:06 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: al baby; Maceman

Oh gawd, can you imagine the kind of people who use the hook-up, bootycall kind of sites? yikes....


22 posted on 02/14/2013 5:55:23 PM PST by GeronL (http://asspos.blogspot.com)
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To: Viennacon
I do wish, however, that people were still able to create long-lasting relationships without the internet.

They are. I met my husband the old fashioned way, through a friend. My Uncle, as I recounted above, met his second wife on-line. My cousin married the girl next door, (ok two blocks down, turn left, third house on the right. Close enough!)

Internet dating is just an extension of the old "dating by mail" that was popular 100 years ago.

23 posted on 02/14/2013 5:55:46 PM PST by Harmless Teddy Bear (Promotional Fee Paid for by "Ouchies" The Sharp, Prickly Toy You Bathe With!)
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To: Morgana
Yep they kinda found Jesus after their divorce it would seem. So with the protestants on that site marriage is for better, for worse but not for life.

You have no idea about their divorce circumstances, but I'm sure they admire your piety.

Plus the first time I correct that child for something he/she does wrong the child will run to the biological parent and call me “the wicked stepmother” Sorry everyone I don’t need this crap. I don’t want some divorced man or his extra baggage. Widowers are okay however. Even ones with children, because there is no biological mother to run to and make me the wicked stepmother.

LOL, looks like you need no help.

24 posted on 02/14/2013 5:59:47 PM PST by xone
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To: Maceman

So sorry. God bless you in your sorrow.


25 posted on 02/14/2013 6:07:08 PM PST by righttackle44 (Take scalps. Leave the bodies as a warning.)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

I know only 1 person who uses ChristianMingle and she is separated from her husband. I think she just uses it for entertainment.


26 posted on 02/14/2013 6:30:52 PM PST by Kirkwood (Zombie Hunter)
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To: Maceman

My condolences to you on your loss.


27 posted on 02/14/2013 6:54:11 PM PST by fieldmarshaldj (Resist We Much)
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To: Maceman

I’m so sorry for your loss! Prayers, to you, for comfort and rest during this period in your life.


28 posted on 02/14/2013 7:00:09 PM PST by rabidralph (http://www.cafepress.com/westernwis)
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To: xone

“but I’m sure they admire your piety.”

Well I’d rather be an old maid than an old divorcee.


29 posted on 02/14/2013 7:22:44 PM PST by Morgana (This space for rent.)
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To: righttackle44

Sorrow?

Hey of all the 100 things I did wrong in my youth, getting in a bad marriage so that I ended up divorced (or worse) was not one of them!!


30 posted on 02/14/2013 7:28:30 PM PST by Morgana (This space for rent.)
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To: Morgana
Being Catholic myself, I'm not a big fan of divorce, but sometimes:
There's valid reasons - Affairs, drugs, abuse, criminal behavior
There's no say in the matter. One wants out. The other is religious and doesn't believe in it.

I don't blanket judge all cases.

31 posted on 02/14/2013 8:02:51 PM PST by Darren McCarty (If most people were more than keyboard warriors, we might have won the election)
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To: CHRISTIAN DIARIST

I’m with you - it’s the people and their hearts, not the tool. God can take the absolute worst thing and squeeze massive amounts of good from it. Condemning Christian Mingle because some folks will be predators is like condemning guns because some folks will be killers.


32 posted on 02/15/2013 3:39:50 AM PST by trebb (Allies no longer trust us. Enemies no longer fear us.)
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To: Darren McCarty

“There’s valid reasons - Affairs, drugs, abuse, criminal behavior
There’s no say in the matter. One wants out. The other is religious and doesn’t believe in it.

I don’t blanket judge all cases.”

Don’t blanket judge? Dude come on over 80% of these people were divorced! Some more than once. The idea of Margaret Sanger/Kinsey was to break down the nuclear family and guess what? It has happened in the protestant faith which allowed this evil in their mists. It was shocking to see this to me but to them it is nothing. Then they have the gall to tell me they are “on fire for Jesus”? Oh please, spare me. They then turn around and then say they are for homosexual marriage and agree with using birth control to limit the number of children they will produce in a marriage.

Is it any wonder they are divorced?


33 posted on 02/16/2013 10:51:07 PM PST by Morgana (Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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To: Morgana
I'm going from some of the experiences that I've seen. I don't go to online dating sites, so I can't comment there. I know people who have, and the results for them have ranged from good to bad. Similar to elsewhere.

Personally, I think the four things I listed are the only valid reasons for a divorce, and in the case of drugs, if the person refuses to get help and/or puts the kids in danger. I've seen many cases where those actions caused the divorce. Drugs and/or adultery were the most common of those four. As far as “on fire for Jesus” goes, actions always speak louder than words. Anyone can say anything. Look at Joe Biden.

34 posted on 02/17/2013 10:50:49 AM PST by Darren McCarty (If most people were more than keyboard warriors, we might have won the election)
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To: Darren McCarty

I quite agree about the “actions speak louder than words” and yes they can say what they think others want to hear..

But look at Joe Biteme? Only Joe? How about every politician out there. “how do you know when a politician is lying? His/her lips are moving”.


35 posted on 02/22/2013 3:19:01 PM PST by Morgana (Always a bit of truth in dark humor.)
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