>>>Hoo boy! First the state makes a mockery out of marriage, and now the Church?>>>
If the marriage was never consummated there IS no marriage. If, for instance, the man cannot perform his marriage duty, the Church can grant an annulment.
But to keep it’s marriage records up to date, the STATE will insist on a divorce, NOT THE CHURCH.
In this case, the woman has to obey both the State and the Church. Pretty simple.
I find the R.C. church's stand on marriage as related to ones disability or inability to have sex {in the context of being able to have children} rather amusing and somewhat misguided and way out of date for medical advances of today.. I know why it was written but pardon my wording they know not what they are talking about.
The divorce or infidelity rate for couples marrying with disabilities is much lower than where a healthy couple suddenly faces the severe disability of a spouse. Marriages entered into with a known disability fair pretty well because the non disabled spouse has accepted it before hand. BTW disability even quadriplegia doesn't necessarily mean a man nor woman can not bring forth offspring either.
Our 28th anniversary is in November. I am the birth father of no children. I am the father of now two adults whom I helped raise up from their pre-teens. We married after the onset of disability inside a Catholic Hospital Chapel with a Baptist minister officiating and a Priest and several Nuns as our guest.
My wife's rehab doctor whom we met a month after we had married asked us how long we had been married. When we said a month he said "Whew good. You'll likely be OK" he also said "it's the ones who are married and disability hits that have the high marriage fail rate."
We're happy & very married indeed. :>}