Friend, I asked that question of believers, not you.
I am sorry that you are so confused by people who don't get the Father's message right. But His message is still clear and open to you if you want to hear it. If necessary, He will bring it to you Himself as He has done before.
Don't blame anyone else if you do not know Him. You can know Him right now. He isn't far away. He's standing outside your heart knocking to be let in.
Open your heart.
Shalom.
(Almost) everybody thinks the banquet dinner in the arena is a wonderful idea. Thousands, if not millions, of people start showing up at the same time.
When they all see each other, they start arguing very loudly amongst themselves and to the rich man trying to explain why such-and-such a person shouldn't be allowed (they got a divorce, they ate meat on a Friday, they don't speak in tongues, etc) into the arena.
The arguments reach such a fevered pitch that they all set up their own little buildings around the arena and insist to others that the only way to get an actual invitation (and not some sort of counterfeit ticket) to the arena is to first join the group in their smaller building, a group which has it's own set of exclusive rules
My point - you can't even get Christians of the same and/or different denominations to agree on what it means to be a Christian. No wonder you can't even begin to understand those who are not...