I'll be darned ... you sound like dear Father White. (One of those crusty traditional types who wouldn't marry a couple if they still were living together at the time.)
Happy to hear that you and your wife are doing what you can to steer young men and women in the right direction.
Yea, and Dr. Laura, who rails against couples living together.
I'm also firmly against baptizing babies unless the couple is married in the Church. Even when I was a deacon, twenty-five years ago, I'd run into (mostly) Hispanics who were married by JP's and wanted their child baptized.
Since there was no guarantee that the child would be raised in the Church, we regularly postponed baptism until after the couples had a marriage case filed in the tribunal, or until they were married in the Church.
Sacraments aren't "magic," after all.