Posted on 05/31/2003 10:42:16 AM PDT by tame
I have a friend who is very seriously considering suicide. This friend is not interested in pity, but rather truly believes that a greater good could be served by his "withdrawel" from this life. He is almost "clinical" in his consideration of the decision.
While he believes suicide is morally wrong in many circumstances, he believes that it is the optimal moral choice in rare circumstances such as his. He is a Christian and he believes he has brought too much shame to his church, God, and his family to the point that less shame would be brought on God's kingdom if he simply "checked out".
His principle for this greater good of suicide is drawn from 1 Corinthians chapter 5 where Paul indicated it was better for a certain man to be handed over to Satan that his flesh may be destroyed but his soul saved in the day of judgement.
Now, I realize the immediate outcry most of you will voice against suicide, but on further contemplation is suicide always wrong without exception? What say you?
like Calvinist_Dark_Lord's "Calvinist mantra" in post #34... "Love God and do what you will."
I think that is something that the old time Calvinists, Methodists and Baptists could all agree on! (Phil.2:13) :>)
An early morning good-night to you this first day of June.
That man repented and did not commit sucide.
In fact, Paul then tells the church to forgive him and bring him back less he be swallowed up in sorrow (2Cor.2:6-7)
Now, I realize the immediate outcry most of you will voice against suicide, but on further contemplation is suicide always wrong without exception? What say you?
The only case where I can think of where a suicide was 'justified' was in the case of Samson.
That suicide was really a type of dying in battle and taking the enemy with you, a very rare case.
If your friends problem are that of the 1Cor. 5 issue, then suicide is not the answer, getting right with God is (1Jn.1:9, 1Cor.11:31)
Amen!
While he believes suicide is morally wrong in many circumstances, he believes that it is the optimal moral choice in rare circumstances such as his. He is a Christian and he believes he has brought too much shame to his church, God, and his family to the point that less shame would be brought on God's kingdom if he simply "checked out".
Here's my take on it... join the f*cking crowd, kemosabe.
Forget about the Shame you have brought to your "family" and your "Church"... If any of us truly understood the horrific Shame we have brought against God, the Violation of His Image we have wrought by our every Sin (not just the "Big Sins"), we'd probably wanna put a bullet in our brain.
Which is exactly why Christ died. If you wanna "die on your own behalf", or "save Face for the Kingdom", you're almost pissing ingratitude upon His sacrifice "who became Sin for you" (In fact, you are).
Christ became Sin for Us. Suicide ain't "noble", it doesn't "save Face"... it's a form of INGRATITUDE against the Sacrifice of Christ, "who became Sin for us".
It ain't possible to "pay Jesus back" for the Perfect Atonement which He has worked on your behalf... but you can spend a Life-time in servitude to Him, at the very least.
If you choose to cut that Life-time short -- if you choose, in short, to tell Jesus to go piss up a rope -- I don't know whether or not that endangers your Eternal Salvation. I do know it's just plain ungrateful for the Sacrifice which He has wrought.
Don't particularly like "who you are"? Neither does anyone who knows himself to be... a Sinner.
But at least, if we don't take the easy "short-cut" outta here, we can serve Him for the rest of our days.
He believes he has brought too much shame to his church, God, and his family to the point that less shame would be brought on God's kingdom if he simply "checked out" ~~ oh, cry me a river. I know formerly-excommunicated OPC Elders, guilty of Adultery, who sweltered under Church Discipline for nearly five years before they were restored to Participation in Fellowship and Communion.
Suicide ain't the "easy way out", it's just plain ingratitude. When Christians screw up -- as we surely will, as we surely will -- we don't take the "easy way" out.
We desperately cling to the healing robe of Christ, and we do our Duty. That's Christianity.
This is true of *anyone* who sins in view of others (most of us). God can only be glorified, here, by repentance, healing and transformation. Suicide brings great shame on the church because it proclaims to the world that the gospel and the church have failed your friend!
Tame, if your are that person. PLEASE! seek help. Remove the shame by letting God change you.
Paul (aka Newberger)
What a gamble! What high stakes!
There is no promise in scripture that I can see that backs this up.
Paul
Then all this argument is a waste of time.
He needs hospitalization NOW. Arguing, even if you have the best arguments is feeding his self-pity and depression.
He is using the appearance of logic to justify his actions when thay are sourced in self-centered despair from depression.
Drive him to his counselor, yourself.
Since your friend is telling you he is thinking about suicide, he is crying for help.
Find the nearest psychiatric hospital near you and call them or call the suicide hotline or, if your pastor has been educated in counciling, call him for advice.
Orthodox Presbyterian
Minister of Diplomacy
"Truth and a Two-by-Four"
For the record, the friend I refer to is not tame.
For prayer (and I do beg you please pray), refer to him as "Joey"
I thank so may of you for your insights--not that I agree with everythig written (neither I nor my friend think he'll go to hell if he takes his option, but it would be severe). Many of them have been very helpful (a couple were a bit harsh). I welcome any more further thoughts.
I think we can all agree, regardless of our denomination or religion, that this is one of the critical places where the theological rubber meets the road....it's not just "theological jausting". Again, I urge you to please pray!
It gets so complicated. Counselors and psychiatrists cost money which Joey does NOT have--being a conservative, he refuses welfare, he's not mentally able to work on a regular basis, he is so volatile it's hard for him to room with others, etc.
I just don't have all the resources and asnwers for him. The pastor is a good suggestion but can only do so much. This whole thing makes me understand in a whole new way why some people just wind up as homeless on the street. But Joey has sooooo much potential.
If this guy is unable to work because of his mental problems, he needs medical care and not the back and forth conversation found on the Internet.
Tame, you are the one responsible for this guy, obviously. Get him some help - call the suicide hotline now and they will direct you where to go. It doesn't cost a penny.
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