Hell, I feel lucky to have gotten away from my ex wife with my life. This was over 12 years ago, and since then the hysterical man-haters have made things even worse. She tried to strangle me because I wouldn't hand over the keys to my car when she was mad and wanted to go to her mother's house. The last time she drove there when she was mad, she drove home so drunk she couldn't walk, so I was a little leary of giving my car to her. Anyway, after I managed to get away from her, I went across the street and called the cops. When they showed up, she admitted that the cuts on my theoat were from her, that I never lais a hand on her, and that if I stayed there, they would be back for me latter with a body bag. And what did the police do? They told
me to leave or they would take me to jail for the night.
Now the laws have gotten so severe that I've known women who have called the police and said that their husband/boyfriend hit them even though they never were never touched, and by law, the cops has to arrest the guy. Convictions are assured, even though it's just her word against his.
On the other side of the fence, my best friend's sister-in-law just went back with the boyfriend that slapped her around and threatened to kill her and her family. It's not like this girl is hard to look at or has the personality of a brick. She's just a loser magnet lacking the common sense that God gave a sack of gutter spikes.
I've seen both scenarios as well. Had a neighbor once who had left an abusive man for a handsome state trooper, who knocked her around eventually as well. Don't know if her third husband is hitting her, but she seemed drawn to that type of man.
Also know of a woman who works with battered women, and in the middle of a divorce she has accused her husband of all kinds of things that nobody else remembers, and it has caused great pain to their children.
I've told my youngest child that if a suitor starts questioning where you were, who you talked to, checks the mileage on your car, etc., he's bad news. BTW, we've also told her she can't date until she's twenty ;-D