Mom of jailed teen: Son’s just a prisoner of love

Boston Herald ^ | Monday, February 23, 2004 | David Weber

[Ignatz]

These parents are having trouble controlling their daughter. She is not obedient, so in their attempts to control her, they throw her boyfriend in jail? He's not a pervert, he's not a pedophile, he's her boyfriend.

The boy's mother could/would not control him, so the girl's father had to have the law intervene. 13-year-old girls are not "mature"; they cannot perceive what romantic love really is. And having a 17-year-old boyfriend is a prize they can wave in front of their girlfriends, nothing more.
If the boy would have been say, twenty, when they met...would he be a pedophile then? What about thirty? What if it were her 52-year-old science teacher?
Do tell me at what age someone who tries to have sex with a 13-year-old becomes a pedophile?
Btw, I have been a 17-year-old boy, and they have no better conception of romantic love than a 13-year-old. What teenage boys do have in abundance is lust, and that can easily become an infatuation that they easily confuse with love.
Here's another difference: while a 13-year-old girl may have a trophy to show her friends, a 17-year-old boy would not be crowing about his sexual conquest of a 13-year-old girl.

[mysterio]

When I was a senior in high school, I dated a freshmen. I guess that makes me a criminal as well.

It would be nice to see a little common sense.

[af_vet_1981]

ive been out of jail for 8 months but will probably soon return.

[af_vet_1981]

i have no plans to go back to jail i have a great job that makes six figures a year and what do you do again ...lol. anyways, she wasnt 13 she was 14 i was just turned 17 were about 2 and a half years apart and i truely loved her and no one can take that away from. plus look for me soon i will be on abc 20/20. and good morning america. so how do you like me now . i love to prove people wrong. it makes me feel good about myself :). oh i also live in manhattan so obviously you can do what you want when you set your mind to it :)

Besides reading and writing, what skills did you learn in jail ?

[mugs99]

He's made a monumental screw-up of his life, but hopefully, he can recover

Not a chance...He's now being educated in the College Of Crime. He went in as a lovestruck kid. He'll return as a dangerous felon.
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[F.J. Mitchell]

"So what are her parents going to do when she reaches 18?"

Nothin they can do, and thanks to their actions, their daughter will probably marry an ex-con.

[ArrogantBustard]

hi, my name is napoleon bonaparte.

i'm the emperor of france.

pay no attention to the feathers. really. i'm the emperor, i tgell you .!

[cherry]

why are freepers complaining?.....other than the punishment is way too harsh......

haven't we longed for the days when fathers stood up tall and strong for their dtrs?

havn't we wanted parents to actually DO something rather than just let things unravel?

if this girl got pregnant at age 15 its the same freepers who would be complaining that she had bad parents....

we finally get a parent to act in the best interest of their kid and we still get complaints about that......

[Chef Dajuan]

i beg to differ with you.

i'm 17 and very much in love with my special someone.

[P-Chan Penny]

Gen X is callous and cold because of the Baby Boomer generation and the cheapening of life they caused. They didn't want to deal with the children created by their "carefree" lifestyles, so abortion became the law of the land. Now they don't want to deal with aging parents, so now it's Euthanasia, or "dying with dignity". Yeah, we Gen Xers are cold an callous all right... the ones lucky enough to have survived.

My daughter isn't going to date until she's 16. Period. Of course if she wants to go to the mall with mommy and meet up with a friend, well, I'll take that on a case by case basis.

[mugs99]

???????
ROFL!

[Jaded]

You should have finished school.

[Chef Dajuan]

15 is really not a child. 100 years ago american men and women married at that age.

oh, i'm 17. however i'm a legally emancipated minor.

but face it. kids experiment and have sex. they always have and always will. you sexophobes who don't think so are naive.

or have you forgotten how old you were when you first 'did it'?

[Jaded]

I think the girl should have been in trouble too. She was obviously DISOBEYING her parents. The father, IMO, seems to be overlooking the part of his innocent little darling. Both kids were wrong.

[Jaded]

Learn correct capitalization. The shift key is your friend.