Is Marriage Worth It? (Advice To A Single Man On Finding The Right Woman) MUST READ!!!

Worldnetdaily.com ^ | 06/14/04 | Vox Day

[longtermmemmory]

SEX is a big one the article ignores. Marital celibacy will kill a marriage just as easily as an affair alone.

[goldstategop]

The author does mention sex. But there's more to a relationship than how great you are with your mate between the sheets. If you don't have things in common beyond the bedroom, a marriage won't have the depth it needs to grow and stay alive in stressful times.

[longtermmemmory]

All true, but like an automobile if you take a vital part away, it does not matter how perfect everything else is.

If we had a perfect way to measure love and relationships and marriage, we would have alot fewer books and articles.

[Keith in Iowa]

>>>SEX is a big one the article ignores. Marital celibacy will kill a marriage just as easily as an affair alone.

Sex is like frosting on a cake. Frosting makes a great cake better...but all the frosting in the world can't make a bad cake any better.

[longtermmemmory]

without frosting its just bread.

[jasminex10]

Been to Texas lately??

We are not all money-grubbers, whinny, and lazy. I hope that the website you linked does not represent most single guys feelings of women/marriage.

Wishing y'all better fortune in the future!! ;)

[jasminex10]

Appreciate the article...

Applies to women looking for suitable guys as well!!

[nightdriver]

"Interestingly enough Dr Laura's new book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands has much to say about how and why a amarriage is successful"

It's a good book, too.

Finding women who are interested enough to read it and take Dr. Laura's advice is another matter, however.

All the arguments I've seen, pro and con, about marriage leave out the most important item, in my estimation. Marriage is instituted by God and it is important to Him because it is part of His own image that he has entrusted to mankind.

We humans muck it up at our own peril!

[KangarooJacqui]

And the same warnings should be issued to women, too. ;)

You wrote exactly what I was thinking. Change the gender definitives in that article, and I think we'd have an article aimed at "us girls".

Then again, I'm still in mourning for my first husband (RIP Chris), so I don't think this stuff really applies to me at the moment anyway (if ever again).

[KangarooJacqui]

You don't have to be religious to take marriage seriously and there is no evidence that Non-religious people are any more prone to divorce than religious people.

Hurrah. I'm not religious, and I take marriage VERY seriously. I expected to be married for life. Alas, someone had other plans...

[rrrod]

Its so hard for us perfect men to find just the right lady./sarcasm off.

[dk88]

Oh heck, someone's gotta do it.
Hey Laz! Over here!

[chasio649]

Good post....I'm happy to be married...my wife never nags and always thinks of me first...i try my best to take good care of her...marriage is great with the right person...thank god for unanswered prayes in my case...i shudder to think if i had married a few i was smitten with...they fit most of the negatives i see here. I say just find a thoughtful and caring women that doesn't even take the notion to always be ahead of you or always keeping score.

[goldstategop]

If love and marriage were perfect, no one would ever get divorced.

[chasio649]

nice post...

[Adam36]

Rush Limbaugh needs to read this. lol

[foobeca]

If I cheat on her, she gets half my stuff. I she cheats on me, she STILL gets half my stuff.

Finacially it doesn't make sense to get married especially with the risk of divorce. As far as the spirital realm goes, I have to get married-fornication is against God's law as well as celebacy-we are commanded to multiply and replenish the earth.

[weegee]

These women always blame whoever they are around the most instead of themselves – if she's constantly complaining about her coworkers or her family, don't even continue to date her. If you do, soon enough you'll discover that she has a new target at which to aim her barbs.

If she is constantly complaining about her family, take heed. These are your potential inlaws.

[Barney Gumble]

Though this one is bogus,

1. Is she a woman of genuine faith? A woman who seriously believes that marriage is a sacrament – be she Christian, Jew or Muslim – will have a very different view of the institution and the commitment...

You don't have to be religious to take marriage seriously and there is no evidence that Non-religious people are any more prone to divorce than religious people.

I think the key word here that you are missing is "genuine" faith. I would lump all of the nominal Christians, the Christmas& Easter Christians in the same regard as non-religious. Your statistics don't differentiate. Since there are not any casually religious Jehovah's Witness, I would consider most genuinely relgious people to have similar percentages.

[tm22721]

Too little personal discipline is the biggest problem IMHO.

When that glue of the middle class declines so does marriage and all else in society that relies upon personal responsibility.

BUMP