Posted on 01/03/2005 8:31:56 AM PST by qam1
Heh.... one of the more selfish reasons I almost wish I were having kids, is so the terrible parents in my life would see for themselves that I know what I am talking about :~D
Children never want to hear they are an accident. Accident implies unwanted.
I prefer to say "unscheduled" but wanted.
just my $0.02.
It doesn't bother me. I just find it odd that my firends think I care what their kids look like at Christmas. I would just as soon get a nativity scene or something.
Society reward the institution not the individual. Institutions do not get measured by the anecdotal exception that proves the rule.
And God told you this directly? You have an insight into The Almighty's thoughts and desires? He came down to you and expressed His Divine Displeasure about somehow forcing those who do not feel the self-centered urge to make a half-harted stab at some sort of immortality?
Insolent, Self-Rightous, Blasphemous and Sanctimonious!
Accident implies unwanted.
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It sure does, doesn't it? I prefer the term surprise. Then again, I like surprises. :)
You've posted many reasons to not have children....and top on the list seems to be your horse. BTW, you refered to having a child as a "whim" in that post. I let that one go because I obviously don't have much in common with you....and gave you my best wishes anyway. If that's not enough for you, then that's just too bad.
Another one of those mythical internet beasts.
The purpose of Mr. Wolf in writing this article is to equate the couple who DECIDES to not have children with the homosexual marriage which can never produce a child.
This tempest in a teapot is what homoadvocate Wolf wants. There is a very big difference between a man and a woman who make a conscious decision not to have a child within a marriage vs a homosexual couple which will never produce a child together.
A married normal couple deciding not to have a child still promotes the institution of marriage vs the sodomite couple which is seeking to base a marriage on mere fetish based orgasm.
a simple search of Mr. Wolf past articles establishes this propaganda.
I see no reason to condem the couple who decides to have no children any more than I would condemn the couple that has one child instead of twenty children.
We should be focusing on keeping marriage as the institution where this decision shall continue to exist. We must oppose any American Bar Association efforts to remove the child/no child issue from marriage as an insititution.
You're only 36! Based on the thoughtfulness of your posts, I thought you were a lot older and worldliwise.
By the time you get to be my age, you'll be a friggin' genius (like me). : )
Here's a question for unmarried women in their 30s - any thought to adopting older children?
The Bible says that God is love. Therefore, you know love when you know God.
It does not say that you will know love only if you have a child.
I certainly missed them. Can you provide a link? Thanks in advance...
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I didn't say childrearing was a whim, I was saying it wasn't something I should just up and decide to do on advice from a stranger on a message board. My husband and I have made a lot of agreements about our life, and it would be mighty unfair to turn that all upside down lightly, don't you think?
You don't read very carefully, so I won't bother reasoned multi-point responses.
What happens when you marry into a family that treats you like some kind of disgusting babymaking machine as soon as you have a kid? Eeeew. What'd you go and do that for?
And everytime I read an article like this it reminds me of the parents I have to counsel today about how their kid got arrested for this or how the kid got caught with drugs at school, or how the did now live at their home with his seperated life with their 3 kids and we are "supporting them again" and on and on and on. Yep, some people who had kids should never have had them and many who didn't probably should have.
UH, bad news for you, most couples, who are not having children are educated, and conservative and practice birth control. Very bad news for you.
I am beginning to think that the most selfish, arrogant, self-righteous people in our society are parents.
Look at what some people are posting here. That people without kids are selfish, liberal, bad for society, and living outside of God's will.
You say that the primary purpose of marriage is procreation? God created Eve for Adam, because "it was not good for Adam to be alone." So the primary purpose of marriage is companionship. God did not say that "it was not good for Adam to be without children."
Plus, what would you say to people who are unable to have children? Has God cursed them? Why would he make it impossible for them to do his will, if having children is his will?
I think parents call childfree couples "selfish" because they are convinced that they themselves are saints. After all, doesn't staying up all night feeding a baby make you more spiritual? Isn't it oh so giving to take your kids to soccer practice every day? Doesn't it make you a better citizen if you give up your retirement savings to send your kids to college? Come on now, let's all bow down to the almighty parent and give them a medal for their selfless, saintly sleepless nights!
Perhaps parents can't admit to themselves that it's okay NOT to have kids. Because if they thought it was okay, then maybe they would have chosen not to have them. But, shhhh! we can't be thinking thoughts like that now, can we?
My God does not tell people they have to get married, and that being single is less spiritual. He does not tell people they have to have kids if they don't want to. He does not only use people who have kids to fulfull his divine purposes. So, I hope you're happy with your God. I sure am happy with mine.
Who knows she could have had an Alex P. Keaton type of kid
I wish no one invented Birth control.. Trying to convince wife to start a family. She is being stubborn. She wants to wait however she is 33 and will turn 34 next month.. Time is a wasting...
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