Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is — unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' — unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' — women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
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"This whiner probably won't mention that she is a femi-nazi, control freak and total bitch."
Now that's uncalled for. You don't even know this woman and you are making all kinds of assumptions about her. I've seen the men here on FR "bitch" about the way women marry and suck the man for everything he has and then divorce him, taking huge alimoney payments with them. This woman works herself through college, and is now a self reliant woman looking for a relationship and all you can say is that she's a bitch? UnFreakingBelievable.
I didn't delve that deeply for obvious reasons.
I do think, however, that a certain sense of unreality is pervading the dating world. Relationships are not cure alls, nor will they be perfect, as they are founded on imperfect human beings. I wonder why it is that this face has somehow been lost.
Regards, Ivan
Really? Well you in a very small minority and I think most men would agree! LOL!
However thanks for your male insight, something to consider but I really prefer the type of man who see something he wants and has enought confidence to go after it without being afraid of rejection but then that's just me
A "prince" might be nice.....since I've already had the frog. *chuckle*
It amazes me that most men my age are looking for 25yr old women....and are surprised those women use/abuse and leave them in the dust. I get tapped by men 15 yrs younger... who want stability, loyalty, maturity and can't compete with the sugar-daddy syndrome. What a crazy world.
Thank you as I repeated in post #43
"Let me provide you with a clue....women like to be pursued and courted"
OK.
Now we get to launch into a lengthy discussion on how the feminist movement of the 60's/70's screwed everything up for everyone 'cuz now we males don't know what to expect from women in general.
We are EMPHATICALLY NOT MIND-READERS.
We are HARD PROGRAMMED, and essentially DUMB AS ROCKS.
TOO MANY CROSSED WIRES AND MIXED SIGNALS from women these days.
So what is wrong with you leading the family? You have assumed the traditional male role as soon as you chose that career. Now you want your cake and eat it too? That is not fair to the men.
The outcome of modern feminism is that while women were fighting to obtain equal rights with men they did not allow men to have equal rights with them.
Online dating is one of the fastest growing businesses in the US.
Pardon for jumping in here.
I've observed some men, who will flat out and say admit "no woman intimidates me!" He might be joking a bit, but I think he's serious.
A woman in her right mind wouldn't ask him out. My take on that is, if he doesn't ask her out, he's not intererested.
Ivan,
Maybe you should have said to her. "Wow you are so deep." and made her pay for her own cheque. You would have sent her a message most men don't have the guts to do especially if she is very attractive.
No, a man is going to think "dominate me in bed".
LOL. Great response. And you know what? I know women who would have signed right there, because you were funny, and honest and also willing to bargain!
Ah, love!
You too!?
Gee I never looked at it that way...I wondered why a man 15 years younger would be hitting on me, considering most men like women younger than themselves.....I guess that could explain it
Well my reply to her asking for a Dior watch was this:
"You haven't even said you want to be my girlfriend yet."
She said, "Whoa, go slow!"
"I am," I replied, "you're the one asking for a Dior watch."
She shut up after that, and that was it.
Regards, Ivan
Good comeback Ivan.
Deluxe, meet my FRiend, TheBigB.
However thanks for your male insight, something to consider but I really prefer the type of man who see something he wants and has enought confidence to go after it without being afraid of rejection but then that's just me
Believe it or not but a lot of men want the same thing. A woman who sees what she wants and goes after it.
And just for your information, I'm female.
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