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It's an unfortunate fact of life that some people will be saddled with people who either are or develop into poor spouses.

I agree with a lot of what you are posting, but I wanted to point out the part in bold. We aren't "saddled with" someone, we CHOOSE them. The hope, of course, is that we will make a good choice. Sometimes people make poor choices and sometimes people change in ways that we could not anticipate.

I don't insist that everyone stay married no matter how miserable they are. I would like people to understand that there are cycles to marriage, and sometimes just waiting things out and making more effort to be nice to each other can get you through a slumpy period.

Part of the reason we get married is to experience deep love and intimacy. Many people never get there because they cut and run when things aren't fun anymore. They don't seem to realize that if they make the effort to work it through, (many times) they will be rewarded tremendously with more love, respect and trust. My husband and I have gone through some VERY rough times in our marriage and some rough times in life. Today, I love and appreciate my husband a hundred times more than I did when we married 15 years ago.

It is impossible to do this without both spouses being somewhat willing to stick it out, or at least too apathetic to leave. People seem to have no hope at all that things CAN be different. That makes me sad.

Yes, we choose who we will partner up with in life. The thing is, people change and sometimes people make decisions that make it extraordinarily difficult for their married partner to remain with them. Sometimes people change and flatly reject and replace their married partner. That's a 'saddled with' situation whether we like it or not.

While I agree with everything you posted, it's not relevant. You can't hope to mandate that level of commitment among people. It's not realistic. It's good that you and I, and others, live that way. But no fault divorce is the best solution out of a series of bad choices. If two people don't want to have anything to do with each other, and have no interest in working things out (and I can imagine a circumstance where some folks might not be interested in the commitment to work it out), they should go their separate ways.

Any other answer is uncivilized or immature.