Prayer Request for Ladyinred [Sad update in post #972]

5/5/07 | JustAmy

[Texas Termite]

We continue to pray......

“TT”, Beth & Nana

[JustAmy]

First for all who do not know, Clovis_Skeptic is Connie's brother. I know posting these updates have not been easy for him. Thank you, Clovis_Skeptic. Our prayers are with you.

Last night, I received and email from Tom. He gave me permission to post it.

Connie has not left us yet but is knocking at Heaven’s gate. She is resting peacefully and we are able to administer what appears to be the perfect dose of pain medication. We have tried 4 different ones and finally found one easy to administer and effective enough to keep her at ease. We are anticipating her final moments and hopefully it will be as peaceful as her rest appears to be at this time . Jesus will certainly take this one. A comforting note is that she told me " I AM going to Heaven", so that tells me she was not as afraid of the unknown coming destination as most people appear to be. I told her how fortunate she is to have a first class ticket. I told her how lucky she is to be taking THE trip and how selfish I am for wanting her to stay with me and put off the wonderful things ahead of her.

This has been so hard to watch over the last 20 months. She has been leaving a little at a time and only in the last month or so has it been to the point where you could see the changes daily. She is such a strong person. Not once have I seen her cry about her being sick and having a terminal illness. There were times during the last few weeks that she showed her irritability but it was from not feeling well and certainly understandable. My prayers always included asking God to help and guide me to do the things that would keep her comfortable. I tried to keep her comfort in the forefront of all activities, to the point of at times she would tell me "stop, I am fine".

Amy, I never thought in my time on this earth that I would experience a feeling so strong for anyone as I have for Connie. We have had such a wonderful time together, such fun and laughter she brought with her at every turn in her life with me. During her illness and fighting to keep death at a distance, I never thought a little simple sweet smile would become so precious to remember. She would tell me almost every night "goodnight sweetheart, I love you ­ see you in the morning". She could say that with such a sweet voice ­ how I will miss that. After 19+ years of marriage, we have only spent 5 or 6 days apart and that was when I traveled for business. I usually managed to take her with me. Life has its interruptions and this certainly is a devastating one for me ­ she wanted me to retire so we could spend more time together .... a cloud got in the way of our sunshine!!

Love you all,
Tom

PLease continue to pray for this FReeper Family.

[Freedom'sWorthIt]

(sorry for my fumbling fingers - previous post to OWF - meant to say: so glad you are POSTING, not POSING, here...sheesh)

Clovis-Skeptic - no I am sorry - I had forgotten you are LadyinRed - Connie’s brother. Oh, my heart and prayers go out to you even more!!! What a wonderful brother you are to be with Connie and her beloved husband at this time. I know this has been so hard for you too. God bless and comfort your heart and those of your family’s at this very tough time.

Just Amy - thank you for posting Tom’s email. Of course, tears...but how wonderful to read of Tom’s and Connie’s love for each other. How hard this is to go through. Knowing she is going to be with Jesus brings much consolation but only time and God’s healing presence will ease the pain of losing one loved so much!

[rintense]

My prayers for a peaceful journey home, my dear LiR.

[lonestar]

My prayers are with you all.

[Alamo-Girl]

Thank you for sharing this with us. Prayers continue for LadyinRed and all the loved ones.

[Smokin' Joe]

Prayers up for you all.

[DollyCali]

thank you for the faithful reporting & sharing of your soul, Tom

I am very convinced with my years as a hospice chaplain that as a person goes thru the dying process ...sometimes over months.. they are offered glimpses of paradise & interaction with the GOOD spirit world & God’s essence... most are NOT remembered consciously but this makes the transition for them so much easier.

It reminds me of the song.. Turn your eyes upon Jesus..

and particularly the words

And the things of earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of his glory &grace.

I believe this is what Connie experiences. Surely loving her earthly family but now knowing in her soul what awaits.. and no fear in the transition.

Bless you all.. It is not hard on her as much as you all .. she is off to the PhD classes while we all sit in kindergarten

[afnamvet]

Thanks for posting the update Amy. Connie will be in a glorious place. No more pain and suffering.

[JustAmy]

It was very hard for me to post Tom’s email. He said I could post whatever I considered appropriate. I considered leaving his heartfelt emotions out, but they kept pulling at me.

I cried again as I posted it.

I do not know whether mntgrl@vrwc still lurks or not, but I feel that I need to contact her. I’ve lost her email address. She and Connie were very close.

[B Knotts]

Prayer BUMP

[Freedom'sWorthIt]

Thank you again for posting all that you did.

Yes, I know you have shed many tears and this is just the latest...that email from Tom ... oh the love it shows between these two precious ones.....and the pain of losing the one. God will see him through it all, He will see all her beloveds through it, and you too.

OH - I don’t know - hoping somehow mtngrl will get this post!

[Yossarian]

It was very hard for me to post Tom’s email. He said I could post whatever I considered appropriate. I considered leaving his heartfelt emotions out, but they kept pulling at me.

I can see where it's very painful, but it also serves as a beautiful testament to their marriage. Thank you for posting it, it helps us know a bit more about this great FReeper, and helps serve as an example to follow.

I hope her days in this place are as good as circumstances can allow, and that she knows the Lord's loving embrace when she goes on to the next.

[Grammy]

May the creator of the entire universe hold Connie and all who love her in the palm of His hand.

[Syncro]

Thanks for being so close to Connie and Tom, Amy. And posting the information from them.

What a great loving couple.

mtngrl@vrwc hasn't posted for over two years, but maybe you can get in contact with her through Free Republic Mail.

[melt]

Prayers up.

[no more apples]

Thank you, Jonny, for giving me the heads up. I just got in from South Dakota and have been out of the loop for a while.

Thank you, Amy, for your posts. They have helped those of us who aren’t close enough to know a person and their family intimately, but wish we could.

Clovis, my prayers and hugs are with you and your family and friends. I have had some wonderful conversations with Connie. Having lost my step-mom over a year ago and seeing what my father went through - and helping him with that pain, happiness, selfishness...all those crazy emotions...I can only say this: I wish you joy. May you only have joy in your thoughts of Connie - always! (Even through your tears.) I thank God for giving you both so many wonderful years together.

[Brad’s Gramma]

A ping to #942....with tears yet JOY knowing that she WILL be at peace with her Lord...

[Allegra]

May the good Lord hold you all close in His comforting arms during this time.

Connie, I am so happy I got to know you. You have brightened many a moment.

[Fawnn]

Thank you for posting Tom’s note. My heart goes out to him and to Clovis_Skeptic as well.

And, of course, my prayers continue for Connie.