Racial preferences in the dating world

http://www.seacoastonline.com/ ^ | May 11, 2007 | Steve Penner

[Vision]

or just plain nuts. (And most men in America are similarly screwed up.)

IMO, American women are more screwed up then the men. I say that from what I see day to day, in advertising and the media. To make my point, when was the last time you saw a movie about a guy who was trying to hurt his success with women? Never, but a move was put out a few years ago called something like "how to lose a guy in 10 days."

[Zhang Fei]

Speak for yourself.

That's not my personal view. I find women of all races and ethnicities attractive. I am merely stating what seems to be the view, on average, of major segments of the male population. Not everyone feels that way. You and I are exceptions. But a majority of the male population finds black women the least attractive of all the races. It is what it is.

[Vision]

Still, you're right. I could do a LOT worse. (Come to think of it I have done a lot worse!)

Chuckles.

[altura]

Statistics from mall walking. Lots of white girls with Black guys; the occasional Mexican girl with Black guy; almost no Black girls with white or Mexican guys.

This is simply an observation and not intended to be racist but typically Black features can be attractive on a guy, but not so attractive on a girl.

[Vision]

Women were quite feminine, and not embarrassed to be desired for being so.

Well said and more evidence women are more screwed up then men. Only in the bluest of blue states do men attack other men for being masculine.

[Riverman94610]

My mom was of the same”stick to your own kind and life will be easier”type that yours was.
Didn’t take her advice but I understood where she was coming from.
What she never understood was that”my own kind”sure didn’t treat me very KIND.When you are rejected as an outcast,you seek other outcasts to bond with.
Sure didn’t make life easier but it made it a lot more fun.

[Vision]

I never have found a black woman who didn’t insist she wanted only to date and marry a black man.

Come to Maryland. They trip over themselves to get the attention of an attractive white guy.

[Riverman94610]

The scene is a locker room at work where many black males hang out and”chop it up”.One says to all in the circle,”Have you ever known an emotionally stable black woman?”
The room falls silent for fifteen seconds.Of course no one could name one,including white me.
Everyone has a good laugh,especially knowing that most likely in the adjoining women’s locker room,a bunch of the”sisters”are engaged in a black man bashing session.

[DTogo]

I think you nailed it.

[rabscuttle385]

Hey now. My mom grew up in South Cotabato. The odd thing (well, for the Philippines) is that her family was Protestant, not Roman Catholic.

[Polybius]

I don’t know how to put this politely so I’m not even going to try. ... THey actually want to be americans and not some stupid a$$ hyphenated american. ......This hyper desire to assimilate also happened with irish and german immigrants. My grandmother who was part irish shunned her irish ancestry and actually denied it. She was darned near ashamed of it. She was a WASP and any talk otherwise was fightin words to her. That sounds strange today, but it is true.

So, being a WASP, or at least pretending you are, makes you more "American"?

If your name was O'Flaherty and you fought and bled for the Union in the Irish Brigade, you had to be ashamed of your Irish heritage in other to be considered a "real American" like those Anglo-Saxon Protestants that had English ancestry and English surnames?

Should the memorial to the dead of the Irish Brigade that died for the Union at Gettysburg, dedicated on July 2, 1888, have been less "Irish" so that they would not be considered "some stupid a$$ hyphenated americans"?

Should Joe DiMaggio have changed his name to "Joe Harrington" and denied he was Italian in order to be considered more "American"?

Maybe your grandmother's shame at her Irish ancestry had to do with how Irish were viewed at the time by the WASPs in America.

The Irish were routinely caricatured in nationwide publications such as Harper's Weekly as ignorant, violent drunks with ape-like faces.

And don't even bring up how the WASPs saw how the Catholics were polluting the American Republic.

Maybe your great-great-grandfather was one of those gallant Union soldiers that proudly gave his life for America at Gettysburg under both Old Glory and the green battle flag of the Irish Brigade that honored their Irish heritage.

Maybe, yelling the Irish Brigade's battle cry of "faugh a ballagh" ("clear the way"), he distinguished himself at the Wheatfield at Gettysburg with the rest of the Irish Brigade in that battle that saved the United States of America making him as much of a "real American" as you can possibly be.

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But, who knows? Since he was not a WASP celebrating his English ancestry, your grandmother thought he was therefore not a "real American" and denied he ever existed.

By denying him, she then "assimilated". Maybe she changed her name from "O'Flaherty" to a more "American" name like "Jones" or "Wilson".

And, in doing so, she lost her real American heritage.

Denying the heritage of your ancestors does not make you more "American". It only makes you unworthy of your ancestors.

[null and void]

“We’ll take the niggers and the chinks, but we won’t take the Irish!” - Blazing Saddles...

[gcruse]

” No, they often come from bigoted parents.”

My stereotypes came about from experience, fortified by predictability.

[SauronOfMordor]

Another quality of Asian women is that they generally age well. My friend is married to a Chinese woman in her 50’s but looks 30-ish

[WFTR]

This is simply an observation and not intended to be racist but typically Black features can be attractive on a guy, but not so attractive on a girl.

I understand what you are saying about men's not being as attracted to heavier facial features, but I wonder why the black women who came to this guy's service weren't interested in men of other races. Are they not attracted to other races physically? Do they not like some personality trait that they perceive in men of other races?

Bill

[SauronOfMordor]

More fortunately there's a FReeperette, I'm quite interested in. She just might be the one. Unfortunately, she's thousands of miles away. *sigh*.

Over the long term, the cost of relocating is cheaper than settling for somebody who isn't the one. If there's chemistry there, get on a plane and visit. If the chemistry catches fire, get a refund on the return ticket.

[BurbankKarl]

[SauronOfMordor]

One says to all in the circle,”Have you ever known an emotionally stable black woman?” The room falls silent for fifteen seconds.

My friend ended his relationship with his black girlfriend when, out of the blue, she told him "If you cheat on me, I'm going to stick a knife in you"

[California Patriot]

Women are less concerned about looks and more concerned about vibes.

[California Patriot]

Definitely. White women over 45 are lucky if they look good, even if they’ve tried.