To you, Etixos, your intent may have been politeness, and to you it may have sounded polite. But it is not what you mean so much as how your communication is received by others. It does come across to folks like me and others like me as smarmy and hostile. Whatever you meant, this is what you conveyed. Recall Bobby Burns...
"Oh wad some power the giftie gie us To see oursel's as others see us! It wad frae monie a blunder free us, And foolish notion."
:Best,
:Etixos