Posted on 04/09/2010 11:10:50 AM PDT by Cardhu
A seven-year-old Russian boy who was adopted by an American woman has been sent home on his own with a note saying he was no longer wanted.
Young Artem Savelyev arrived at Moscow airport with the typed note from his adoptive mother which said he was being abandoned after only six months in her care.
Torry-Ann Hansen had admitted to having made a mistake and suggested the boy should be re-housed.
"I no longer wish to parent this child," the unmarried 27-year-old nurse from Tennessee wrote, requesting his adoption be annulled.
She accused the boy's Siberian orphanage of misleading her about Artem's behavioural problems.
Hansen had placed sweets, biscuits and colouring pens in the child's rucksack before checking him onto the 10-hour flight as an unaccompanied minor, reportedly telling him he was going on an "excursion" to Moscow.
(Excerpt) Read more at news.sky.com ...
Behavioral issues like these hardly point to a sociopath.
Aggression to people and animals
bullies, threatens or intimidates others
often initiates physical fights
has used a weapon that could cause serious physical harm to others (e.g. a bat, brick, broken bottle, knife or gun)
is physically cruel to people and/or animals
steals from a victim while confronting them (e.g. assault)
forces someone into sexual activity
Destruction of Property
deliberately engages in firesetting with the intention to cause damage
deliberately destroys other’s property
Deceitfulness, lying, or stealing
has broken into someone else’s building, house, or car
lies to obtain goods, or favors or to avoid obligations
steals items without confronting a victim (e.g. shoplifting, but without breaking and entering)
Serious violations of rules
often stays out at night despite parental objections
runs away from home
often truant from school
Children with conduct disorder may also experience:
Higher rates of depression, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts, and suicide
Academic difficulties
Poor relationships with peers or adults
Sexually transmitted diseases
Difficulty staying in adoptive, foster, or group homes
Higher rates of injuries, school expulsions, and problems with the law
Children who exhibit these behaviors should receive a comprehensive evaluation. Many children with a conduct disorder may have coexisting conditions such as mood disorders, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), substance abuse, ADHD, learning problems, or thought disorders which can also be treated.
Research shows that youngsters with conduct disorder are likely to have ongoing problems if they and their families do not receive early and comprehensive treatment. Without treatment, many young people with conduct disorder are unable to adapt to the demands of adulthood and continue to have problems with relationships and holding a job. They often break laws or behave in an antisocial manner.
Many factors may contribute to a child developing conduct disorder, including brain damage, child abuse, genetic vulnerability, school failure, and traumatic life experiences. Other factors that may make a child more likely to develop conduct disorder include early maternal rejection and/or separation from parents, parental mental illness, and family violence.
Treatment of children with conduct disorder can be complex and challenging. Treatment can be provided in a variety of different settings depending on the severity of the behaviors.
Adding to the challenge of treatment are the child’s uncooperative attitude, fear and distrust of adults. In developing a comprehensive treatment plan, a child and adolescent mental health professional may use information from the child, family, teachers, and other medical specialties to understand the causes of the disorder.
Behavior therapy and psychotherapy are usually necessary to help the child appropriately express and control anger. Special education may be needed for youth with learning disabilities. Parents often need expert assistance in devising and carrying out special management and educational programs in the home and at school.
Treatment is rarely brief since establishing new attitudes and behavior patterns takes time. Some child and teen behaviors are hard to change after they have become ingrained. Therefore, the earlier the conduct disorder is identified and treated, the better the chance for success. Early treatment offers a child a better chance for considerable improvement and hope for a more successful future.
Information from the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry and National Mental Health Information Center.
“And, the child is not a Russian national. He became a US citizen upon entry into the US.
He retained his Russian Citizenship even with his US citizenship.
Great diagnosis based upon a one-paragraph report from AP.
Information from the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry and National Mental Health Information Center.
READ all the way to the end, sweetheart
> He retained his Russian Citizenship even with his US citizenship.
That is correct. That is one reason it can be risky for adopted child to ever visit Russia, at least in theory.
Guess it’s good he got out when he did though:
http://adoption.about.com/od/adoptionrights/p/russiancases.htm
Since 1996, 15 Russian children have died at the hand of their U.S. adoptive parents. Here are some quick facts on these chilling cases.
I did not notice any “opinions” in misterrob’s post, only assertions.
The parent(s) need(s) institutional help that is not available. It is tragic.
Will you please provide your source for this statement? It is 100% different from the information my wife and I received from INS when our son became a U.S. citizen.
I’m not your sweetheart.
And, I am very aware of this document. However, you cannot diagnose a child based upon a one paragraph report in AP quoting his grandmother. I think it takes a little more information.
Do you have a source for your “dual citizenship” assertion? Based on the legal steps we took both in Russia and here during the adoption process, I have been assured by U.S. INS officials that my son is NOT a Russian citizen, or even a dual citizen.
Also, there is no mention of dual-citizenship on his U.S. Passport.
The United States does not recognize dual citizenship. You received the perspective of the US.
Russia still considers US adoptees as Russian citizens who legally left Russia. They can go back if they wish.
> you cannot diagnose a child based upon a one paragraph report in AP quoting his grandmother. I think it takes a little more information.
The patterns repeat over and over. Common-sense burden of proof is on anybody who questions this.
The adopting families need massive help that they are not getting.
We are talking about non-infant adoptions of children who have been abused or neglected or have had too many changing caregivers to develop attachment.
Not telling you all of this to be contentious, but to bring awareness to the situation. Youd be shocked at how much an adoptee is denied and has no legitimate means of proving their citizenship because of legalities.
There is help out there. I have adopted an older foreign child. But, you have to look and ask for it.
I would also add : ANY adoptee is already grieviously hurt, simply by the fact that they have been torn away, for one reason or another, from the only person they have ever known and gotten any sustenance from: their mother. Breaking that tie is injurious enough. I would offer a plea that those seeking to heal adoptees start with that Torn Hole first.
Look up Reactive Attachment Disorder
Our neighbors adopted from Russia. The boy was older. They did not know what he must have been through in his short life, but it must have been bad. He suffered from Reactive Attachment Disorder in the worst way. These kids will never be able to love or feel empathy.
He tried to kill them and their bio-daughter. He killed animals. He started fires. He beat up kids at school. He lied. He stole. These were good Christian people doing their best with a person who was unable to feel empathy, a true little sociopath. He was a complete danger to others and himself all the time. He finally did something bad enough to be put away for a long, long time.
Do not adopt an older child without studying about attachment disorder for a year or two. It’s not something to mess with; it takes a LOT of hard work to raise a hate-filled, feral little person.
There’s an article on tennessean.com that has more info.
As a general rule what???
Men are less fit than women as parents?
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