I have already told my doctor my wishes, he said at the time, I feel the same way you do. Just let me go...Its not the governments decision, its the family but mostly the patients decision. If family members cannot respect any decision the patient made, do them a favor and just leave them alone and don't bother to visit, cause you don't love them enough to respect their wishes....
You care more about the pain you will feel when they pass and are not honoring their wishes therefore you are not honoring them.... I nursed both of my parents in my home when they were terminal, For my father is was less than a week and he died....my mother was a little over 6 weeks...I was not going to let them die in a nursing home or hospital. Had 5 kids at the time and found time to care for my parents...they died 10 years apart...
It can be hard for a child to follow the parents wishes, but at least you know you are carrying out their wishes and not doing it on your own..If one of the children doesn't agree with the decision, too bad cause that is spelled out in the will...anyone that makes trouble for those that have been assigned the medical Power of Attorney are automatically cut out of the will...you have to cover all bases and spell out everything in legal document.
I would recommed you don't use just any lawyer, but a lawyer that specializes in that area and can have you avoid completely probate courts...It is the last loving thing you can do for your children. It shouldn't be their burden People should not leave the burden to their children to make that decision. Every person should have a Power of attorney for medical treatment spelled out and signed. Every couple of years I ask the 2 children that have the power if they think they can respect my wishes and if they think they can't, no problem, I will assign another to that job. Legally....
Great advice. My mom and dad are 79 & 77.
Dads health is failing him. It would be easier if he made his wishes known & got his house in order, however he still behaves as if he will live another 20 years.
He “blew” his money during the boom years and I think that hurts his pride making him want to hang on and work harder to prove himself.
Not to mention how bad it must feel for a strong man to hit the wall and retire to the rocking chair instead of going, going going.
Thank you for mentinoning that people need to talk about what they want. I have a dear friend who carries my advanced directive. I thought about my daughter, the hospice nurse, but decided against it. Family is often too close and one needs someone to advocate for what the patient wants
I want only palliative and life will be just fine
Good post