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Great advice. My mom and dad are 79 & 77.
Dads health is failing him. It would be easier if he made his wishes known & got his house in order, however he still behaves as if he will live another 20 years.
He “blew” his money during the boom years and I think that hurts his pride making him want to hang on and work harder to prove himself.
Not to mention how bad it must feel for a strong man to hit the wall and retire to the rocking chair instead of going, going going.

I should have mentioned his health was great untill about 6 months ago and he never stopped. All day long, working 24/7 at one thing or another. He was not retired, self employed for since he retired fighter pilot since he was about 42.

He had open heart and has been back in hospitol with infection and lung problems. Now he is at home with shingles. We have not talked, however I can tell he is not happy at all.

Maybe God is calling home.

My father also went to the funeral parlor he wanted to use, picked out his casket and paid for everything before he passed.....He died at 86 and had lived a long and fruitful life and was not afraid to die...He hated to be debilitated in any way...he was still living in an apartment and got a 2 bedroom apartment when I asked him why he wanted a 2 bedroom he said in case his health gets bad and he can hired someone to take care of him....he had all bases covered..Instead of a will, his money he got from selling the house on Mullet lake and the house in Detroit, he split amongst his 4 kids in individual savings accounts in each kids name but he kept the bank books until he passed. He had used a couple of different banks and all we had to do was take the savings books and close out the account...

For your fathers and my father generation the last thing they wanted was feel weak and useless. I say let him do as he wants even if he chooses to do something you think is silly at their ages...

But if there is a estate I would encourage him to make a will, revocable trust and Medical Power of Attorney...For that you need to find a good lawyer that works only in the area of estates and probate...just choose a time you think he will be open to the suggestion..

If he is not open to such a suggestion,you could explain that if he passed before his wife, she might have a hard time understanding and doing what would be required of her to do.......good luck and God Bless