Just want to thank you all so much for your prayers. Mom is home, there doesn’t appear to be any damage to her heart muscle, and she’s being as hard headed as ever. Would as you all to pray that Father will give me patience tho :) She’s already complaining about the number of pills she has to take.
God has been so good to my family through this, and knowing that each of you had us in prayer, that you were helping to hold us up...it means more than you can ever know.
You are all in my thoughts and prayers, and I wish you all a very Merry CHRISTmas, and a safe, healthy, and Blessed New Year.
CERTAINLY
PRAYER UPDATE PING ON SHADOWSTRIKE’S MOM
You might experiment with something like the following . . .
“Mom, we love you dearly. I think you have a lot of evidence of that. You can do what you can to help make our loving you and caring for you easier or harder. Mom, I need you to put yourself in our place and do your best to treat us as you’d want to be treated if the roles were reversed—as we do when we reach out to serve you in this situation.”
Hugs and prayers.
Although I haven’t replied until now, you, your mom and family have been added to my prayers.
I wanted to share something with you in regards to how your Mom is acting, and in addition to what Quix suggested, you might try...
When I’m feeling particularly ill, I do have a tendency to complain a lot. If I sit and analyze my behavior after the fact, I think the thing I was craving the most at the times I was my worst was actual physical comfort. Some people are more receptive as others, particularly in a foul mood. However, you might try to commiserate with her on occasion about how much of a pain it is taking so many pills, and keeping track of it all, and then assure her that the reason you’re helping is because of that — and also emphasize that if it were you, it’d be hard for you to keep track, feel like taking them all as well.
Contrary to sounding negative, it will help her understand that YOU understand and she isn’t “alone”. Lots of hugs are important, too - if she wants them. There is a part of us - especially when we are seriously ill or injured that is a scared little child inside - whether we recognize and admit it, or not. As for medication we are forced to take for the rest of our life, there is a period of rebellion while we struggle with facing our own mortality. No-one likes being ill, and likes even less to have to take reg. medication to keep us as healthy as possible (esp. when it isn’t even as healthy as one once was...).
I’ve been recovering from a bad double ear infection, and I’m having a very hard time staying on schedule with all of my pills - that adds to the depression that the body feels when sick, and can influence mood tremendously as well. And, I’m only dealing with regular illness - not something as critical as your Mom is dealing with. I can only imagine the stress, worry and deep thoughts to be way more profound in her case.
Sorry for writing so much... I think half of my message was an attempt to even express my own feelings. I don’t know if this is what’s up with your Mom, or not. Maybe there are bits and pieces that will help in your situation... Regardless, I will keep you all in my continuing prayers - for patience, strength, peace, comfort and finding moments of joy no matter the situation. :)