Posted on 12/03/2012 5:43:28 AM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
The article clearly states that women commit half of domestic violence. FBI crime stats also support that.
Crawl back into your hole and never bother anybody again, numbnuts.
She had it coming...and she will tell you she did. And it was a spanking, not a beating.
She was immature and out of control. Her parents had allowed her to do whatever she wanted.
What was next? Drugs? Extra marital sex? A DUI?
Her mother smacked her father around and belittled him all the time. Her husband wasn’t going to live like that.
My kids all got spanked. And no, that is not abuse. Her husband’s philosophy was “you act like a child, you get treated like one.”
My grandfather spanked my grandmother, and my father-in-law adjusted my mother-in-laws attitude more than once.
I believe it was common practice pre-feminism.
Both of those marriages lasted over 50 years.
Do I agree with the practice?
I don’t know…I do know my friend’s marriage has lasted and they treat each other like newlyweds….to the point we tell them to stop and go get a room.
I do know her husband was right to put a stop to her reckless behavior that endangered both her safety and their marriage and family.
I lived with a woman like this for 8 years... my ex-wife.
She would slap and punch when she got mad at me for just about anything... she wasn't a drug or alcohol users, she was just an immature person who refused to make any effort to control herself. Oddly enough, she never laid a finger on the kids or anyone else for that matter so I know it was more of a selective thing.
Having said all that, as a real man (something we all want to see ourselves as), it's a catch-22 situation. You can't hit back and at best, you can block the punches. If you hit back or grab, you go to jail for domestic violence... but if you do nothing, you're a damned sissy for getting beat up by a girl. you don't want to call the cops because the kids, no matter how you view it, need their mother at home. Even if you DO call the police, you take the risk of going to jail yourself at the hand of a lying woman.
I just want everyone to consider the tough situation this can be for a guy, I lived through it myself for quite a few years and even though you don't necessarily live in fear (I mean, a 110 pound woman v/s a 175 pound man isn't much of a contest), it's still a huge pain in the ass having to deal with it and the associated stigmas.
It is to be believed.
We’re not talking about the majority of women...just the ones who lie to their kids, lawyers, “Friends of the Court”, cops and judges and because a few had gotten away with it in the past, others are willing to try it. The culture is what it is and for some reason, their word is “golden” and so cops and other first responders tend to believe everything the female alleges...guess who automaqtically gets taken away to jail?
You and I will have to agree to disagree. Spanking a child is way different than hitting your spouse IMHO. Plus, it can really frighten and confuse children who witness this type of behavior. Love, honor and respect may mean different things to different folks. Have a good day!
My wife beat me while I was driving and I went unconscious and woke up in the ditch. I was bloody and battered pretty bad. She had always threatened it, and she finally carried through when I had the nerve to suggest she didn’t have what it takes. I knew not to defend myself because it would only make it worse.
The state police were called by another motorist. I lied to protect her, but the police didn’t believe my story and she was proud of what she did, and bragged about it... so she went to jail.
She never forgave me for that and eventually kicked me out.
She got the kids, the house, everything. I make 57K a year, but I am forced to live on less than 10K.
By the way, the psychological abuse was worse than the physical abuse.
I really do not have any motivation to carry on at this point.
The man is assumed guilty..no evidence of violence needed..just her word.
Exactly.
Oh look! A matching bookend to the crime that is child custody.
I have to admit, I had 4 older brothers and they weren’t allowed to hit me so I got away with a lot of stuff.
Well at least you’re objective and not painting all men with the same broad brush. Glad to know that you believe that men deserve physical violence from women under certain conditions. Does it work the other way around, too?
Go back to DU.
These women shelters are staffed by people who tell women tricks to get the guy in trouble when he hasn’t done anything. They coax them to say certain phrases that they can take from a legal standpoint to get the cops involved.
If anyone wants to set up a man, it’s very, very easy to do.
Grabbing the wrists will still leave marks and unless you’re bleeding and worse off, .... This whole system just sucks.
I was the victim of this
My ex called the police and told them I hit her. When I came home they arrested me
THANK GOD I was able to prove I was NOT AT HOME at the time she claimed it happen (or, I should say, one of the 3 different times she gave) Not only was I not at home, but I was in my attorney's office trying to set up a court date on the phone WITH THE JUDGE. so... needless to say, he didn't believe her
BUT
I was arrested, forced to move out of MY HOME (that I owned before we were married) and until the trial- where all charges against me were dismissed and she was arrested for filing a false charge
When I got back INTO MY OWN HOME she and her kids had trashed the place and I found on her computer a web site DEDICATED TO SETTING UP HUSBANDS!!
There are pages with INSTRUCTIONS on how to set up a man. One even was titled “So, Now he's in jail.. Now what?”
I know. One of those phrases is “He’s scaring me!...”
geez... you sound like a liberal woman- what are you doing here?
I am an ultra conservative woman who is sick if men acting like babies and who demands all of them grow a spine, behave and start protecting women and children instead of letting the country be taken over by metrosexuals, homosexuals and worse.
I know about quite a few including my own. My ex-wife, during an argument put a lit cigerette out on my face then when I grabbed her hand as she tried to slap me she called the police, thankfully the officer had a brain in his head and saw my blistering lip, otherwise i would have gone to jail for protecting myself. Of course I didnt tell anyone, she was 100pnds and I am 200. In her mind, I was supposed to just let her hit me and not respond. Besides the burn scar I also have a 3 inch scar on my cheek where a vase broke after she chucked it at me.
Men can and are abused in relationships.
I suppose I could have done more around the house, worked a 3rd job, stupid me, I just thought that she was batsh*t crazy.
BTW, I was a Corpsman with the Marines at the time, working as a barback to pay off my ex’s credit card bills while she sat at home complaining that she didnt have anything to do. I consider myself very masculine. She was the one who need to grow up. If women would allow men to be men life would be much simpler. I suppose your response to a cigarette to the face would be “Take it like a man.”
No, cigarette burns are definite abuse. I know it happens, just not often. Once again, same old song and dance, did you prosecute?
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