I have a girl friend who was raised without much discipline and rules. Her mother was mean and walked all over the dad.
My friend got married to a really good guy but he was raised to be the “head of the home” (and yes, he loved his wife as Christ loved the church).
Shortly after they married, she got a speeding ticket (a BIG one) and he confronted her, not because of the ticket, but because she could have killed herself and/or others. This wasn’t her first ticket by a long shot.
After a loud discussion, he told her he was taking the keys to her car until she could learn to slow it down. They lived on a bus line and he told her to use that to get to work.
She hauled off and slugged him in the mouth and then tried to scratch his face.
Now, he was 6’4 and a big muscular guy, she was 5’2 and petite. He could have knocked her out with one hit.
Instead, he picked her up, put her over his knee, and busted her behind like she was a kid. I know, the feminazi’s would have had a fit.
He told her he wasn’t going to tolerate that kind of behavior, nor was he going to allow her to jeopardize their marriage, or put herself in danger.
This happened 24 years ago. Their 25th anniversary is in January.
That was her last speeding ticket, and her last attempt at physical violence, in all those years.
From what I understand, it WASN’T her last trip to her hubs woodshed.
I wouldn’t have believed this story if she hadn’t told me herself.
Maybe I am reading your post wrong. However, you wrote, “that was her last speeding ticket, and her last attempt at physical violence. It WASN’T her last trip to her hubs woodshed”. Probably just me... it sounds like he hit his wife during their 25 years of marriage.. she just learned not to hit back? Just my two cents worth but I have raised my kids to not believe in spouses hitting each other. Either sex.. However, I have also told my girls that if a man hits you once during the dating/courtship/marriage... he’ll hit you all his life.