You are sanctimonious, it is just a word and the brothas and sistas call each other nigga all the time.
Axe them why they use the word all the time.
I’m not aiming any special virtue; I was responding to a claim that everyone uses the term. As a matter of personal practice, would you refer to all women with the “C” word? I don’t use that term either. It’s not that hard to be civil.