I think a lot of men are on a marriage strike. When they see their fathers/uncles/brothers raped in divorce court, and forced to pay 1/4 of his income for alimony, and the mother getting full custody of the children requiring him to give up another 1/4-1/3 of his income, it might make him think twice about getting married.
I know you shouldn’t worry about a divorce when marrying. I just think a lot of men now see it as risky. It is the culture we have.
“I think a lot of men are on a marriage strike.”
Agreed.
When no-fault swept the land...starting in Calif. in the 70’s, and WITHOUT much debate, the “plan” was to destroy the fundamental building-block of America’s strength: The family.
No, you’re not. That’s why some people frown on pre-nups. But it’s only human. Up to that point, children are taught to consider possible negative consequences of their actions and be practical and realistic and take a businesslike, not over-emotional approach to things. Fear of a bad marriage experience affects women, too. I know it did me. I didnt see a lot if happy marriages modeled among my parents and aunts and uncles. My cousins are the same way, I know, even if below the conscious level. A few if them have since managed to have good marriages in middle age, after a few tries. And that’s great, but they didnt have children with those people, most of whom were busy in other bad marriages (And I’m not talking vague dissatisfaction here-I’m talking real abuse, serial adultery, mental illness, substance abuse and horrific in-law problems)