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Pity Party Nation: Who Cares If You're Offended? (Its About Time Someone Ask This Question)
Townhall.com ^ | October 21, 2014 | John Hawkins

Posted on 10/21/2014 4:24:19 AM PDT by Kaslin

Since when did, “I’m offended,” become an argument that trumps all facts, logic and common sense? When did regularly claiming to be aggrieved on behalf of some splinter of the population become a high paying gig? How did we get to a point in America where people are PROUD to tell you that they’re “victims?”

There are a lot of reasons things have gone so wrong on this front, but ironically, the biggest is that our nation has had so much success.

Americans are now considerably richer and more educated as a group than Americans were a few generations ago. The Civil Rights struggle was an overwhelming success. Even many poor Americans have access to conveniences and luxuries that the richest and most privileged of us didn’t have 100 years ago. If you look at the whole of human history, anyone living in America today is in the wealthiest, most privileged “1%” of people who have ever lived on Planet Earth.

There’s a reason people say, “Idle hands do the devil’s work,” and it’s the same reason you often find that prominent terrorists and communists come from privileged backgrounds. No matter how well things are going, some people are going to be dissatisfied. When those people are living hand to mouth, they’re too busy scrambling to pay their bills to worry about trivia. But, when they have a roof over their heads, money in their pockets, and free time, they spend their days doing what critics do.

This is not new. Even Machiavelli had people like this in his time,

“And many writers have imagined for themselves republics and principalities that have never been seen or known to exist in reality; for there is such a gap between how one lives and how one ought to live that anyone who abandons what is done for what ought to be done learns his ruin rather than his preservation…..”

The difference between today and the start of the 16th century is that our prosperity has allowed a few puddles full of whiners to grow into an ocean and worse yet, we REWARD them for bellyaching.

In the era of the Internet and reality TV, everyone seems to be chasing Andy Warhol’s “fabled 15 minutes of fame” and one of the easiest ways to get them, especially if you don’t have any talent or don’t want to work for them, is to throw a big public pity party for yourself.

There are people like Cindy Sheehan, Sandra Fluke and to a lesser degree, even Hillary Clinton who managed to turn being professional victims into careers.

Setting that aside, there’s the financial motive. There are people who quite literally make a living by accusing other people of racism, sexism and homophobia. Do you really think people -- who are only going to be able to make their house payments if they keep making accusations of racism -- are going to see anything other than bigotry when there’s money on the line?

Professional race hustlers are bad enough, but the sheer number of amateurs getting in on the game has an even bigger negative impact on society. Every day, we now have millions of people trying to figure out how they can be aggrieved so they can claim their own delicious little slice of victimhood.

As often as not, when you hear their caterwauling about how upset they are, you can’t help but think it’s their way of saying, “Everybody look at us! We’re victims! We’re offended; so you have to pay attention to us!”

There are people offended by American flags, by non-offensive words like “niggardly” that sound similar to offensive words, by Christian business owners who don’t want to bake cakes for gay weddings, by children’s songs that mention pigs and there’s even a family that’s terribly upset about Ben & Jerry’s “Hazed and Confused” ice cream because….well, can you even guess? It’s because their son died in 2008 in a hazing incident and so they’ve decided they don’t like the word “hazed.”

That last example cuts to the heart of the problem because you certainly feel for people who lost their son and it’s understandable that they’re against hazing. But, where does sympathy stop and common sense begin? How far is everyone else supposed to go to cater to their irrational complaints? As someone who quite literally gets hate mail every day of the week from people who are deeply offended in almost every way imaginable because I dare to have a different opinion than they do on an issue, I’d say not very far.

That doesn’t mean that we should go out of our way to offend people. For example, even though I’m not a Muslim and think the overreaction to Koran burnings in some parts of the world is insane, I wouldn’t burn a Koran because I want to show a modicum of courtesy to people from another faith. I don’t think the Confederate flag is racist, but I wouldn’t personally fly one because I can legitimately see where many black Americans associate it with slavery. I’ve had polite conversations at conventions with liberals -- whom I would disagree with on every issue -- just because I think it’s good manners. These are the sort of niceties that help hold a society together, but it only goes so far.

When every niche issue that mildly tweaks someone’s sensibilities becomes a life and death, traumatic “either do this or you hate me” battle, the bonds that hold us together as a society begin to disintegrate because to paraphrase Aristotle, the only way to avoid offending people is to “say nothing, do nothing and be nothing.”

It’s made worse by the fact that so many people have started glomming on to these ridiculous issues as a substitute for actually doing something of consequence. “I’m against the Redskins; so I’m pro-Indian!” “The words ‘illegal immigrant’ are offensive; so I’m pro-Hispanic!” “I think that’s racist; so I’m pro-black.”



Bull****! If you’ve helped a black friend move his furniture to a new apartment, you’ve actually done more for black Americans than someone who has spent the last decade screaming “racism, racism, racism” every day.

Claiming to be “offended” on someone else’s behalf rarely accomplishes anything meaningful. In fact, it’s often about as “helpful” as buying a bottle of booze for an alcoholic because life doesn’t give “trigger warnings” and few people worth emulating in life enjoy being the guest of honor at a pity party.


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KEYWORDS: america; offensive; prosperity; racism
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1 posted on 10/21/2014 4:24:19 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin

Since “we” are too “civil” to respond to the whiners:

“I’m offended by your stupidity!”


2 posted on 10/21/2014 4:25:57 AM PDT by G Larry (Which of Obama's policies do you think I'd support if he were white?)
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To: G Larry

You said it


3 posted on 10/21/2014 4:31:01 AM PDT by Kaslin (He needed the ignorant to reelect him, and he got them. Now we all have to pay the consequenses)
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To: Kaslin

There are two main reasons that some people get their way with “I’m offended.”

1) They belong to a group that blows things up and cuts off people’s heads, and whose ultimate goal is the suppression of Christianity.

2) They belong to a group whose behavior is incompatible with Christianity, and tolerance of which will eventually require the suppression of Christianity.


4 posted on 10/21/2014 4:32:02 AM PDT by Arthur McGowan
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To: Kaslin

Part of the wussification process. Millions of people toiled away to build our once-great civilization over centuries - for the most part rather stoically.

Lawyers & legislators need us to be whiners so they can glom off the system.


5 posted on 10/21/2014 4:33:40 AM PDT by P.O.E. (Pray for America)
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To: Kaslin

If politicians can use it to get money and votes, expect it to be supported.


6 posted on 10/21/2014 4:39:43 AM PDT by RWB Patriot ("My ability is a value that must be earned and I don't recognize anyone's need as a claim on me.")
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To: Arthur McGowan

Atheism is supposedly incompatible with Christianity, yet I’m very tolerant and would vehemently fight against any suppression of Christianity (as in political suppression).


7 posted on 10/21/2014 4:41:47 AM PDT by RWB Patriot ("My ability is a value that must be earned and I don't recognize anyone's need as a claim on me.")
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To: Kaslin
“I'm offended” only works for certain people, it never works for me. I'm offended every time Obama opens his mouth. I'm offended by terrorist sympathizer bumper stickers (i.e. Coexist). I'm offended by the commie clenched fist which is all to prevalent in WI. I'm offended by advertisers that talk at me as if I were an idiot. I'm offended by constantly having to hear about football. But no one cares when I am offended.
8 posted on 10/21/2014 4:57:28 AM PDT by logic101.net (How many more children must die on the altar of gun free zones?)
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To: Kaslin

I’m really offended by the Furgeson trash


9 posted on 10/21/2014 4:58:56 AM PDT by bert ((K.E.; N.P.; GOPc.;+12 ..... Obama is public enemy #1)
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To: Kaslin

Never before have so many had so much for so little effort. And appreciated it less.


10 posted on 10/21/2014 5:08:14 AM PDT by all the best
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To: logic101.net

I too am offended when obama speaks. Therefore I never listen.

I am offended by advertisers. On the rare occasion when I watch TV, I mute the commercials.

I never watch football (but GO COWBOYS!)

I constantly speak out against islam and Marxism. I generally try to offend them right back.

My wife tells me that I am an a-hole sometimes. I just smile and say I know.


11 posted on 10/21/2014 5:08:40 AM PDT by rfreedom4u (Texas isn't just a state. It's a state of mind!)
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To: P.O.E.

We now have a vast system of socialists, liberal foundations, lawyers, race baiters and politicians that produce nothing! They use political correctness to further their reach and control of society. We need to dismantle PC and the rest of the machine.


12 posted on 10/21/2014 5:09:00 AM PDT by bigtoona
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To: Kaslin

I used to get offended a lot... then I grew up.

Being sensitive about feeling inadequate (by definition, the state of adolescence) will cause you to feel offended a lot.


13 posted on 10/21/2014 5:10:46 AM PDT by SMARTY ("When you blame others, you give up your power to change." Robert Anthony)
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To: Kaslin

The civil rights movement demonstrated that there is power in victimhood. And where there’s power, there’s money.

Worse, the power of victimhood isn’t proportional to the “offense” and it isn’t allocated logically or consistently. Queers get to be offended because a Bible-believing baker won’t endorse their perversion by baking them a cake. But social conservatives aren’t allowed to be offended at a “gay pride” parade when presented with the stomach-turning spectacle of a 300-pound hairy crossdresser simulating fellatio on a man dressed as Pinnochio.

So the question becomes, who parcels out this power, what is its nature, and under what criteria is it allocated? And ultimately, to what end?


14 posted on 10/21/2014 5:22:33 AM PDT by IronJack
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To: Kaslin

I’m offended by lying politicians who think voters are idiots whom they can fool to preserve their cushy living.


15 posted on 10/21/2014 5:22:58 AM PDT by txrefugee
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To: Kaslin
A man said to the universe:
“Sir, I exist!”
“However,” replied the universe,
“The fact has not created in me
A sense of obligation.”

S. Crane


16 posted on 10/21/2014 5:27:55 AM PDT by kitchen (Even the walls have ears.)
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To: Kaslin

Apparently it depends on who is offended. If you or I are offended, that’s just because we’re bigots, racists, homophobes, etc. If one of the protected classes is offended then there is a terrible hew and cry. It must be our fault and we need big government to immediately step in, slap us down, and issues some laws/regulations to ensure that the precious little darlings never get their feelers hurt again. PC liberals make me sick.


17 posted on 10/21/2014 5:33:38 AM PDT by ThunderSleeps (Stop obarma now! Stop the hussein - insane agenda!)
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To: Kaslin

The problem is natural selection no longer exists on so many fronts now.

Whining and parasitic behaviors are now subsidized.


18 posted on 10/21/2014 5:41:37 AM PDT by headstamp 2
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To: bert
"I’m really offended by the Furgeson trash"

You really do a disservice to trash here...

19 posted on 10/21/2014 5:42:11 AM PDT by EnigmaticAnomaly ("With the demonrats in charge, we find ourselves living in an ineptocracy.")
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To: SMARTY

“Being sensitive about feeling inadequate (by definition, the state of adolescence) will cause you to feel offended a lot.”

We live in the age of perpetual adolescence.

Some people grow up and some people just grow old.


20 posted on 10/21/2014 5:43:18 AM PDT by headstamp 2
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