Posted on 01/28/2015 11:16:15 PM PST by grundle
This is the story for a large portion of homeschoolers. My family was well below the poverty line for quite a few years and we lived (laughed and loved, too). We also gave more to charity during that time than Al Gore did ($300.00) on year.
Ah, those Clinton years. In a lot of ways, I miss them.
“I assume that you two have no children together?”
( If I end up having to pay $1,200 child support for 2 kids, that will put be $1,900. Since the mortgage is about $1,500, I would be $400 in the hole each month even if I could find a place to live for free. )
2 children. I told her I was willing to put up with her damn cheating but not her unilaterally breaking up the family. I told her what the consequences will be of her choices, so the choice is up to her.
Based on what you described, you sound like you are making the best of a bad situation. It sounds like you are living in your own personal cold war, with Mutually Assuered Destruction as your chosen deterrent. Well, it worked at the global level.
All the ‘snips’ are nice I guess. I don’t see anything there that isn’t repeated in untold personal situations.
I’m glad she at least chose not to take “public assistance”. However, if you are in her situation and have a child and you file an income tax form, the government will compute your EITC whether you claim it or not and send you the difference - whether you ask for it or not.
That actually happened to me many years ago while I was working through college. I filed my taxes one year and the government went ahead and computed it with EITC and sent me a check for $700 credit for taxes I never paid.
That is an interesting analogy that had not occurred to me but it does seem to describe the situation accurately. Despite everything, I still care for her.
She is under no danger of any kind, she does not get abused, I don’t cheat on her, I’m not a drunk or a deadbeat (I have never been late on a child support payment for my oldest son from 1st wife). We have a house with a small woods and a stream, she gets to work only half-time so she can homeschool two of the kids (one hers & one ours).
I am wondering if she is willing to basically suicide-bomb the family. She seems to be preparing to do just that. All so she can apparently indulge her feelings in some kind of “Eat Pray Love” crap.
The funny thing is that my net worth is negative. Primary assets are house which is probably underwater, and cars which are very OLD. Student loans, etc. On the positive side, I got found my passport this morning, and I am going to renew it as soon as possible.
Nice story...we could be richer, but we are richer with our kids...
LOL. That is too funny. And yes 2nd. Division does seem to be freezing.
I had those nuns too. And an Irish grandmother who was big on freezing. Must be a Catholic thing.
I’m sorry you are going through this.
Thanks... in a few months I may be out of the frying pan and into the fire. (If she goes through with leaving, I will be leaving also — to join the Kurds in the fight against ISIS)
I’m getting a passport photo done today, so I can send that in with a form, and the old passport which expires this year, so I can get it renewed.
You are in a pretty bad state of mind right now, baltimorepoet. I don’t blame you.
How about NOT taking this outrageous, scummy betrayal and hurting yourself with it. It belongs to her; not you and she’ll pay for it one way or another in the long run.
Your life is worth living and there will be more and deeper love for you to have. Money comes and money goes. It will come back round again.
I want you to cool your jets and just move through this for a year, then decide what to do.
God bless you and keep you safe and sound.
The laws are different in every state. It’s not automatically a 50-50 split unless the parents agree to that. Some mothers (and some fathers) agree to give up assets so that they can retain physical custody of the children. The court may not award much if any child support or alimony if there is a presumption that both parents should work full time. Every state, every jurisdiction, every judge, every case is different.
Recall also that in many upper-income families, the house, cars, and other assets are held in the name of the husband’s business, so they aren’t always included in the property division. Creative attorneys can divert or conceal one spouse’s income and assets. The other spouse may receive a sum in settlement that is barely enough to pay the lawyer.
“check out her story”
The quest for Mr Perfect... Nowhere in anything she has written does she mention looking into herself for why her relationships with men have always failed, and the role she has played in such. She blames being a victim of her circumstances and continues to look for the better model.
“Everywhere I went I studied and assessed the men around me.”
“I watched men as they moved through the world.”
“He worked hard to provide for his family. But then he came home and went to bed, leaving the children and I to fumble our way through a tenuous relationship. Surely, I thought, when he and I had children things would be different.”
I have to wonder what role she played in this. She wanted HIM to change from the man she originally fell in love with and married. WHY did he go to bed after work (and avoid her) instead of spending time with her? By her own admission, she has deep issues with men stemming from her childhood.
In all fairness, I respect her desire to be a good mom, but I’d be interested in hearing what her latest ex has to say. I also wonder what sites were that she visited in her epic quest through the internetz to find mister right. Me thinks there was probably a fairly large portion of Dr Phil and Oprah types in there. Also have to wonder about her intent for writing all this publicly.
Is it a hoax ? who knows. pretty elaborate and crappy if it is.
I did. It sounds like her biggest complaint was that her husband worked hard and came home tired. I sure hope my wife doesn't divorce me for such a marital transgression.
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