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The gay males I have talked to, on the other hand, are extremely scared of sexual interaction with females. There’s just something in their past that averted them away from interest in females, many times a traumatic sexual encounter with a male. I noticed, also, that there is a LOT of self-destructive behavior in their community (a lot of drugs). Older gay males, who have “weathered the storm” grow out of that behavior. Many of them are not activist, either, but the ones that are try to speak for the group. This is where all the flak comes from.

When I was in college in the mid-late 70's it was the first time I was exposed to lots of gays. I was a theater major and the department was crawling with them. It was also crawling with hot heterosexual girls. Guys like me had to jump through all the hoops guys have jumped through since time immemorial to get dates with the girls. However, the gays seemed to have no barriers whatever about having as much sex as possible. So, when some young guy would join the department as a freshman, if he was intimidated by girls but wanted to have sex, all he had to do was say "I'm gay", or "I'm not sure if I'm gay or straight", and he could be having sex that very day with one or several gay guys. They seemed to be quite casual about having sex with whomever happened to be gay.