So. Who said I agree with him?
I just said that Jefferson disagreed with you calling to make marriage in America purely religious, and his America was long before this non-religious America.
It seems like you are way off base with this sneaky anti-Christian libertarian effort to get Christians out of the public marriage fight.
From THE COLONIAL FAMILY IN AMERICA
While we think of the early New England settlers as very religious, they actually viewed marriage as a civil contract, not a religious contract. Consequently, marriage was a function of the magistrates more than the clergy.
From LEGISLATIVE GUIDE TO MARRIAGE LAW Iowa.gov
They (Puritans founders of Massachusetts) believed that marriage was not a religious ceremony but a civil contract. They required that this covenant must be agreed or executed (not performed or solemnized) before a magistrate, and not a minister. They also insisted that if the terms of the marriage covenant were broken, then the union could be ended by divorce. These attitudes became the basis of regional marriage customs throughout New England.