I have considered the possibility that because both parties are men, there is never one participant more inclined to putting the brakes on sexual activity.
Well, perversion can go pretty “damned” deep. Some consider it a trip to be violated pretty raunchily.
The real answer to this is spiritual. In 20/20 hindsight, I think we ought to have had missionaries who visited the bath houses, the closets, and other such places — not to join in the debauchery, but spiritually steeled and ready to persuade men (and for the ladies, women) that God really loves them right down to their ding-a-lings and their rear ends — but has a better idea about how to do it.