I agree with you 100%. Asking for a measly crumb like enforced visitation rights for men is just a rhetorical gesture on my part. Once someone admits that it's a good idea, they have basically admitted that divorced men - as a class - are denied access to their children out of sheer prejudice. Somehow, putting it on the table always seems to bring debate to a screeching halt.
Yes, it ends the discussion because the other side of the argument is unsupportable. So is the argument that a father is the head of a household, and with that status comes the right to custody upon the breakup of the marriage, unless an interested party can prove he should loose such a right.
I don't intend to slight women or mothers by this. It's in the best interest of the children because it's in the best interest of a secure family. Know what I mean? What a price we all have paid for womens liberation!