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An Open Letter To Anyone Who Served In Vietnam
Sierra Times ^ | Julie Weaver

Posted on 05/28/2002 7:12:09 AM PDT by Sir Gawain

An Open Letter To Anyone Who Served In Vietnam
By Julie Weaver Published 05. 27. 02 at 18:50 Sierra Time

Dear Hero,

I was in my twenties during the Vietnam era. I was a single mother and, I'm sad to say, I was probably one of the most self-centered people on the planet. To be perfectly honest, I didn't care one way or the other about the war. All I cared about was me - how I looked, what I wore, and where I was going. I worked and I played. I was never politically involved in anything, but I allowed my opinions to be formed by the media. It happened without my ever being aware. I listened to the protest songs and I watch the six o'clock news and I listened to all the people who were talking.

After awhile, I began to repeat their words and, if you were to ask me, I'd have told you I was against the war. It was very popular. Everyone was doing it, and we never saw what it was doing to our men. All we were shown was what they were doing to the people of Vietnam.

My brother joined the Navy and then he was sent to Vietnam. When he came home, I repeated the words to him. It surprised me how angry he became. I hurt him very deeply and there were years of separation - not only of miles, but also of character. I didn't understand. In fact, I didn't understand anything until I opened my newspaper one day and saw the anguished face of a Vietnam veteran. The picture was taken at the opening of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington, D.C.

His countenance revealed the terrible burden of his soul. As I looked at his picture and his tears, I finally understood a tiny portion of what you had given for us and what we had done to you. I understood that I had been manipulated, but I also knew that I had failed to think for myself. It was like waking up out of a nightmare, except that the nightmare was real. I didn't know what to do.

One day about three years ago, I went to a member of the church I attended at that time, because he had served in Vietnam. I asked him if he had been in Vietnam, and he got a look on his face and said," Yes." Then, I took his hand, looked him square in the face, and said, "Thank you for going." His jaw dropped, he got an amazed look on his face, and then he said, "No one has ever said that to me." He hugged me and I could see that he was about to get tears in his eyes. It gave me an idea, because there is much more that needs to be said. How do we put into words all the regret of so many years? I don't know, but when I have an opportunity, I take. So here goes.

Have you been to Vietnam? If so, I have something I want to say to you - Thank you for going! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Please forgive me for my insensitivity. I don't know how I could have been so blind, but I was. When I woke up, you were wounded and the damage was done, and I don't know how to fix it. I will never stop regretting my actions, and I will never let it happen again. Please understand that I am speaking for the general public also. We know we blew it and we don't know how to make it up to you.

We wish we had been there for you when you came home from Vietnam because you were a hero and you deserved better. Inside of you there is a pain that will never completely go away and you know what? It's inside of us, too; because when we let you down, we hurt ourselves, too. We all know it and we suffer guilt and we don't know what to do so we cheer for our troops and write letters to "any soldier" and we hang out the yellow ribbons and fly the flag and we love America. We love you too, even if it doesn't feel like it to you.

I know in my heart that, when we cheer wildly for our troops, part of the reason is trying to make up for Vietnam. And while it may work for us, it does nothing for you. We failed you. You didn't fail us, but we failed you and we lost our only chance to be grateful to you at the time when you needed and deserved it. We have disgraced ourselves and brought shame to our country. We did it and we need your forgiveness. Please say you will forgive us and please take your rightful place as heroes of our country. We have learned a terribly painful lesson at your expense and we don't know how to fix it.

From the heart, Julie Weaver



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To: Sir Gawain
What a beautiful letter! Speaking of tears….

Thanks so much for posting it, Gawain.

21 posted on 05/28/2002 9:53:59 AM PDT by Victoria Delsoul
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To: jonefab
I was told by the local commander that I could not join because the VFW didn’t consider me a veteran...

Of a "foreign war," that is - that was what they told me as well (USN '70-'80) but that policy changed pretty quickly. There's all sorts of Viet vets in the VFW now.

22 posted on 05/28/2002 9:58:47 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: Victoria Delsoul
:-)
23 posted on 05/28/2002 9:59:34 AM PDT by Sir Gawain
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To: Sir Gawain
bttt
24 posted on 05/28/2002 10:01:10 AM PDT by ChadGore
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To: Sir Gawain
Thanks for posting this. The U.S. withdrew from Vietnam when I was a freshman in high school. When I graduated (post draft era), the prevailing thought was you didn't enlist unless you didn't have another choice.

I will always regret not serving my country in uniform.

25 posted on 05/28/2002 10:04:21 AM PDT by Corin Stormhands
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To: packrat01
Yeah, these are the women who spat on us, called us baby killers, would have nothing to do with us, and demonstrated against American fighting men who were in harm's way. It is like Jane Fonda saying how sorry she is for what she did.

We obviously didn't need them then, and we don't need them now.

26 posted on 05/28/2002 10:18:06 AM PDT by Don Myers
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To: Billthedrill;Cagey;
I know all of this but I really don't want anything to do with them - ever. I also know that at that time other chapters welcomed vets home, and made them members. It probably sounds like sour grapes but thats the way it is. Kind of like I'm not Fonda Jane or ever will be.

I also know they are hurting for memberships right now but they made their bed, with me, and they can lay in it.

In the mean time I have served as a president of my local school board, the president of the local hysterical (my spelling)society and Co-op board member as well as president of my church council. Enjoyed all but the VFW didn't see any worth in what I did for my country (i volunteered) or my worth any time in their future sooooo you get the picture.

27 posted on 05/28/2002 10:22:30 AM PDT by jonefab
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To: Sir Gawain
With tears streaming and for all my fellow vets I say this: As hard as it was, it was easy, for it was for our COUNTRY, and not for GLORY.
28 posted on 05/28/2002 10:29:09 AM PDT by PISANO
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To: Sir Gawain
You are welcome. And thank you for posting.

Wayne MacKirdy

Chaplain (Major), USArmy (ret)
VietNam 1 Nov 67 to 1 June 69
(Field Artillery officer at that time)

29 posted on 05/28/2002 10:37:29 AM PDT by LiteKeeper
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To: jonefab
Yeah, I'm with you - I joined the American Legion for awhile after the VFW turned up its collective nose. Both organizations are graying rapidly, and some posts can no longer work up a rifle squad for their comrades' funerals. Time will heal this wound as well.

It's hard to express just how intense the country's polarization was those days - many of us can report instances of abuse, the light-bulb full of red paint that nearly got me being only a minor example (at least I hope it was paint). What still rankles is that those dishing out the abuse, the campus smart-@sses who never had to go, have turned into a fairly well-defined political class that has learned nothing since - still maintains the same mindless collection of platitudes, stereotypes, and slogans pretty much unchanged from the 60s. These are the tenured radicals, the cosseted pundits, the Clintons being a perfect example - our self-proclaimed cultural elite. To me this is the most poisonous result of that very toxic period.

30 posted on 05/28/2002 10:51:43 AM PDT by Billthedrill
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To: jonefab
In fact the VFW was one of the first Veterans orgs to recruit VN vets to their ranks. This Post Commander you talked to was full of bilgewater. He probably pumped up airplane tires in England during the war. VFW is one million strong and growing. Their orphans home (for children of US military KIA) is one of a kind. Operation Uplink provides $ for GIs to call home on.

Many good programs promulgated by VFW. Let dead dogs lie, time to move on, reconsider, and join us. It is just flat wrong to blast and entire org for the actions of one chowderhead.

31 posted on 05/28/2002 2:14:28 PM PDT by donozark
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To: Sir Gawain
You are welcome.
32 posted on 05/28/2002 2:45:42 PM PDT by pabianice
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To: Sir Gawain
You are welcome.

Ken "KB" Sherman

CDR, USNR (Ret.)

Patrol Squadron ONE

NAF Cam Rahn Bay, RVN

1970-1971

33 posted on 05/28/2002 2:49:27 PM PDT by pabianice
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To: Don Myers
"It is like Jane Fonda saying how sorry she is for what she did."

Except that Hanoi Jane has never actually said that she is sorry. She only moans about "how unforgiving" we are.

34 posted on 05/28/2002 3:05:32 PM PDT by nightdriver
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To: jonefab
When I got home I went to my local VFW to sign up as a member because I had such great respect for those that had served. I was told by the local commander that I could not join because the VFW didn’t consider me a veteran (Viet Nam was considered a police action).

I guess Korean War (excuse me, Police Action) veterans would not be welcome at that VFW post as well.

The college I attended when I got out of the army was not a good situation either. I had nothing in common with the type of snot nosed brats who tried their best to ignore me or at least tolerate me.

My own university, USC, was perhaps the best place for a veteran to be in the early 70s. While they were actively burning draft cards, buildings, etc. at UCLA, SC had virtually no anti-war activity that I can remember. I can't speak for the earlier war years when war protest was a lot more frequent, but when I was there, nothing much was happening in the way of protest.

Vietnam veterans could recognize each other. We were a few years older than the vast majority of students. We were just a little more distant and leery of people in general. And we couldn't grow our hair long enough fast enough. This usually didn't register with the student body in general, except that we were, well, different.

It makes me laugh how camo-fatigues have become the trendy attire of choice on college campuses that last twenty years or so. Especially among kids who haven't earned the right to wear them. We wouldn't have been caught dead in a set of camos back then.

35 posted on 05/28/2002 3:51:19 PM PDT by Euro-American Scum
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To: Sir Gawain
BTTT
36 posted on 05/28/2002 6:59:22 PM PDT by firewalk
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To: Sir Gawain
Bump for those that missed this great post.

CAP2-7-5 III MAF

37 posted on 05/29/2002 11:04:20 AM PDT by chesty_puller
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To: Cagey
It sounds like the commander of that VFW post may have come straight from the bar to tell you that.

Its a commonly repeated story. Lots of my amigos say they won't have anything to do with the VFW because of it, and because of that the VFW is fading, quick. They're begging the VNV now.

38 posted on 05/29/2002 11:16:49 AM PDT by 68 grunt
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To: Sir Gawain
If you want to know what Vietnam was really about, read 1.Derilection of Duty, 2.Lyndon Johnsons War, 3. Taking Charge(the actual white house transcipts), and 4.Reaching for Glory(more actual transcribed white house transcripts).

Johnson did not try to win that war, he knew from the beginning that the was was not winnable, he knew it at the end, and he knew it in the middle.

Read his own words.

You had better have a strong stomach if you read why you were there though.

39 posted on 05/29/2002 11:52:30 AM PDT by waterstraat
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To: waterstraat
...he knew from the beginning that the was was not winnable...

This statement is total BS. It is as stupid and inaccurate today as it was in the 60's. Every time I hear it, my teeth hurt and I get PO'd. There are two problems with it:

1.It is nonsensical.

What this says is that a industrialized country of some 220 million people, with the world's most advanced industry and weapons, could not defeat an agricultural country of some 14-17 million people which could just barely feed itself, with only light industry (at best) and no weapons producing capablility whatsoever. Ridiculous on the face of it. We didn't win because the Democrat politicians didn't want us to win.

It has been said that we couldn't risk taking the war to North Vietnam because it might provoke a Chinese intervention as had happened in Korea. More nonsense. North Vietman was a Soviet client. All their arms, from the AK-47 carried by their grunts to the SAMs and AA shooting down our planes, came in by sea, which we controlled. The Chinese and the Vietnamese had been opponents for a millennia and the Chinese and the Soviets were in the middle of a very nasty split. A loss to the US in Korea was a loss in face to the Chinese; a loss to the US in Vietnam was a loss in face to the Soviets. This was known at the time. If the Chinese had joined the war in a major way, a la Korea, it would have been a slaughter. There is a choke point between China and Vietnam and weapons and tactics had evolved considerably from lessons learned in Korea. This, too, was known at the time.

It has also been argued that attacking shipping — the sole means of resupply to the Vietnamese — would have offended the neutrals who were trading with Vietnam (tough, Swedish iron ore ships in Hamburg in WW II were just as subject to attack as any other) or PO'd the Soviets into retalitory action. More BS. The Soviets had no vital interest in Vietnam. Vietnam's sole function, from the Soviet's point of view, was to distract the US and drain our treasury and our blood. This was proven by the Soviet's lack of reaction when Nixon finally mined the harbor at Haiphong.

2.It is false. We did win the war.

When Nixon attacked the North Vietnamese in Cambodia, it provoked an outrage in the media, among the democrats on the Hill, and on the campuses. More nonsense. Cambodia was, indeed, a neutral country. So were Holland and Belgium in WW II, but Germans were attacked in both countries wherever and whenever possible. Then Nixon mined Haiphong (see above). With their overland communications with South cut, and their resupply lines cut, North Vietnam had no choice but negotiate the best deal they could. And a very good deal for them they got: No occupation of North Vietnam; No monitoring of their future actions; No reparations to South Vietnam; Just a promise to "go and sin no more."

The only way South Vietnam would (or could) accept this was if the US promised to intervene if North Vietnam broke the treaty, which we did. Thus ended the 1st Vietnam War in 1973.

Nixon was forced out of office by a Democrat congress in 1974. In 1975, having had two years to rearm and regroup, the North Vietnamese invaded South Vietnam in a straight forward armor/infantry attack (exactly the kind of attack the US was best trained and equiped to repel). Thus began the 2nd Vietnam War.

To repel this attack and violation of the "Peace Treaty" the US had

What the US did not have was the will to respond to its obligations. Flush with its victory over Nixon, the pusilanimous Democrat congress not only forbade the use of US forces, which were available, but also even denied Pres. Ford the ability to resupply ammunition to the South Vietnamese,

Not surpisingly, deprived of support, deprived of ammunion,
deprived of hope,
the Republic of VietNam fell.

All of this is due to a democrat/socialist world view that remains unchanged today.

Why, I wonder, is there a "Little Saigon" in Arlington, VA, but no "Little New York" in Hanoi?

I apologize for this being so long, but I am tired of being branded a "loser" when I and my buddies fought, and won, I do not accept any statement of an "unwinable war." It was "winnable" and we won it. The Democrat politicians, and their media allies, lost it.

Which is why there are "Little Saigons" in Arlington today.

—xsysmgr MACV '65 & '66

40 posted on 05/29/2002 5:43:35 PM PDT by xsysmgr
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