GWF Seeking Known Father-Donor

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[mgist]

GWF Seeking Known Father-Donor by DLCrossman on 5/28/02 @ 2:10 PM EST

Reply to this message I am seeking a male who wishes to have a child, and wants to be a Father to the child, although the child would live primarily with me (gay Mom). I want the child to know who its father is, to have contact with the father, and to feel loved and cared about by the father. Arrangements regarding time spent with the child could be agreed upon before making a commitment to this. It is OK if the father has a partner, of course. I think it is important that the potential father (and partner?) and myself get to know each other and determine how compatible we are regarding issues pertaining to raising the child, time the father wants to spend with the child, etc. I would like the father to be essentially "traditional" (for lack of a better word) rather than flamboyantly gay, at least around the child in the early years. In addition, I would want the child to have exposure to heterosexual as well as homosexual lifestyles, so visits with heterosexual friends and family would be great. I have 3 heterosexual brothers who are married and have young children, who may serve as uncles if that seems appropriate (they live out-of-state, though). I have a background in the medical sciences and an interest in genealogy, so would like to be able to explore/document family history, genetics, ethnicity, etc., especially as this pertains to the child. I may also wish to have another child/children, close in age, by the same father, if he is interested in that. My ideal picture is of having an alternative family situation for the child/children, where sometimes visits to parents would be separate, and sometimes we might all get together. If the father wishes, it might be possible for the father to have legal rights to the child, as its father, and to participate in decision-making regarding schooling and other matters. Please contact me at Tekky30015@aol.com if you are interested in communicating further about this. Thank you.

[mgist]

The text above is an actual classified from an online newspaper in New England. Another FR poster referred to this site in his post about Gay activists, this is some of what I came across. Prayer my friends, lots of prayer.

[Bahbah]

I wonder how many people would see absolutely nothing wrong with this? Yikes.

[3AngelaD]

You forgot to include a Turkey Baster alert with this post.

[AdA$tra]

Dear GWF:

I think perhaps we could work out an arrangement. I would be willing to work with you and your partner on this very important project in a collaborative fashion. Please advise soonest.

Warmest Regards,
AdA$tra

[HiJinx]

So, why doesn't Tekkie just abandon her gay lover and enter into a healthy hetero relationship. I mean, that's the only thing missing from her list of requirements, isn't it?

Or maybe, she wants hetero with a little of the other on the side?

Sheesh!!!!!!!!!!!11

[Lorianne]

This is a positive! This woman is at least asking, indeed requiring a father be not only known, but included in the father's life!

I totally disagree with anonymous procreation, where the identity of the biological parents is either not known, or is secreted from the person being created. This means I am opposed to closed adoption, sperm and egg donations, any anonymouse IVF techniques. I consider it criminal to create a child and deliberately keep the biological parents identity secret from the new PERSON created.

While this story is troubling in some ways, I see it as a net positive that this child will have a known father (and paternal extended family), a known familial history, and everything in general above board and honest. This is at least has some integrity to it, instead of sperm banks, abdicated parents, etc.

[mgist]

The problem is she wants to bring a child into this world with a stranger and is willing to have visitation rights with someone who is gay and has lovers.

I get the impression she considers herself pious for having all the listed requirements. She is probably a well-educated lady with absolutely so sense for well-being of a child.

[nothingnew]

Dear GWF,

If you want to do the "Long boat to tuna town", or the "Horizontal Mambo", or "Ride the baloney pony", please contact me at grumpyoldmen@burgessmeredith.

FMCDH

[TheMole]

Considering the long persistent searches made by so many of the adopted or abandoned to find their 'birth parents', you have a point. The ad is still pretty appalling when viewed from the potential child's point of view. All children deserve a real family, which is something everyone knows, even this advertiser. Why else would she have included the strangest (and for some, funniest) line in the ad:

I would like the father to be essentially "traditional" (for lack of a better word) rather than flamboyantly gay, at least around the child in the early years.

Jeez, even northeast lesbian radicals don't approve of "flamboyantly gay". food for thought.

[VOA]

). I want the child to know who its father is, to have contact with the father, and to feel
loved and cared about by the father

...and to be available to answer to a lawsuit for support in case GWF ever gets
a bit greedy.

[Looking4Truth]

Let's see here, what is this ad saying?

The 'father' can be 'gay' but not a 'flamer'? MMMMmmmm, so she wants someone to act 'straight' around the kid in the formative years, then gradually introduce them to the homo way? Oh BTW kid, after we get you accustomed to the homo and hetero ways, I've got three uncles for you, too.

Oh and I guess it would be OK to visit your 'straight' relatives once in a while...

[Hillary's Lovely Legs]

Looks like Jodie Foster is fixin to have herself another kid.

[hellinahandcart]

I have 3 heterosexual brothers who are married and have young children, who may serve as uncles if that seems appropriate (they live out-of-state, though).

"Serve" as uncles? If she has a child, her brothers ARE its uncles. What's this "may" stuff?

"IF that seems appropriate"?Does she mean that, if it doesn't seem appropriate to the non-flaming gay father-to-be that the child's real uncles should "serve" as uncles, that they'll advertise in the personals for other "uncles" more to their liking?

I have this woman pegged already. She's a type I really hate, straight or lesbian--instead of living life, she's writing a screenplay and casting the roles. Then she will "live" the movie. Everyone around her should watch out--whenever reality conflicts with her script, in little ways or big, there will be hell to pay. My ex sister-in-law was a lot like this.

[hellinahandcart]

I have a background in the medical sciences and an interest in genealogy, so would like to be able to explore/document family history, genetics, ethnicity, etc., especially as this pertains to the child.

Translation: "Family trees" only appeal to me on paper. That's why the extent of my 3 hetero brothers' participation in this experiment is still up in the air, to be determined later, and only if it seems appropriate to YOU, dear stranger...

[Litany]

"I would like the father to be essentially "traditional" (for lack of a better word) rather than flamboyantly gay, at least around the child in the early years."

Sooo...does she perhaps think that it might ADVERSELY affect the child to be around "flamboyantly gay" men???? This is the height of hypocrisy.