My , My, what on earth were you thinking?
Why would YOU?? stand in line for coffee? I would never have done that, never would have went in line, nor would I have bought my own coffee. Why did you not just sit down and tell him outright that you were thristy( if he did not offer to go get you some right away)? Why didnt you just come out and ask him if he was going to buy you coffee or not?
Clearly, you were not posturing, or presenting, yourself as a lady, who demands to be treated as one. YOu must present yourself as one who is to be catered to, to be waited on.
If he will not get you a coffee on your first date, just how do you think he will treat you after 10 years of marraige? You have to get started on the right foot, from the getgo, with each man you meet.
Also, even if you are carrying your own handgun, you should still have expected an escort to your car.
This guy was a total loser, and you did nothing to help him learn how to correctly treat women. Good riddance to that guy, but you must learn how to make men treat you the way you want.
I must strongly disagree.
Anytime a person misrepresents his or her true self they are sowing the seeds of trouble down the road. Contrary to your statement "you must learn how to make men treat you the way you want" you cannot make someone to be anything.
True change comes from deep within, not from being imposed from without.