"Therefore My Father loves Me, because I lay down My life that I may take it again. No one takes it from Me, but I lay it down of Myself."
And I agree that it is evil to attempt to promolgate either position.
But you bring up an interesting, deeper point. Did God the Father know that God the Son was going to be crucified? Of course! It is part of God's redemptive plan, right?
And of course it is God's sacrifice of Himself, right?
Shouldn't this be where the focus goes?