REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER destroys individuals and the church.
IMHO, EVERY Christian parent should read:
ATTACHMENTS: WHY YOU LOVE, FEEL AND ACT THE WAY YOU DO
by Dr.s Tim Clinton and Gary Sibcy.
imho, there’s two basic reasons Christian parents lose their children to satan . . .
1. They do NOT live the Biblical Christian life about relationships before and with their children.
2. They provoke them to wrath contrary to Scripture and usually unnecessarily—usually over pride issues related to the parents’ own ATTACHMENT DISORDER junk.
3. They discipline—usually too harshly, rigidly, sternly WITHOUT SUFFICIENT RELATIONSHIP to support it. That WILL result in rebellion.
God have mercy.
Then when congregations are made up of parents who are dropping so many Biblical balls on relationship and Christian walk stuff in the normal life of the church—kids will normally say to themselves—if THAT’S what Christianity is—no thanks, that stinks.
And it too often does stink, horribly.
Several of the parents I have talked to as a youth leader fail to see what scripture teaches about the role they are to have as a parent. Most are more concerned with what kind of career their child will have instead of if the child loves God... they figure that will come later. They normally respond in horror when I make the statement “I don't care if my sons dig ditches the rest of their lives as long as they love God”.
As a culture we need to return to “BEING the church” instead of “DOING church”. As Americans we tend to separate out different parts of our lives from the other parts...but all parts of our lives add up to our lives and impact all parts of our lives.
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