That’s part of the problem. They have so many things that can trip you up during your journey that it’s impossible.
People become frustrated at the constant need for perfection and when they give up they are the ones blamed.
For me, I’m not that sure I’m god in embryo material anyway...
As you mentioned, the focus is not on Jesus, but the doctrine.
Sad...
Well, I think you've hit upon the central issue as revealed by the teens this sem teacher polled. Almost half of Mormon teens are thinking exactly like that: "Me? A god (or goddess)? No way"
And so they think the issue is them -- I've even seen several years ago where at a BYU women's conference where one of the speakers referenced the reality that perhaps some of the women out there didn't have husbands who were "celestial material"...
So, in reality they look more to the "natural" -- the "material" -- what Lds "prophet" Spencer W. Kimball referenced as the ability to "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" (and he wasn't the lone Mormon leader to use this term).
He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. (John 14:21)
And the doctrine is never quite in focus...