No sweat.
Your 368 mentioned compiling a list of epithets you’d been called and the list growing huge rapidly.
It can be easy to blame such 100% on the other end of things.
Usually there are lots of reasons for labels and labeling.
They are ALMOST always at least a little on both ends and plenty in the middle. Certainly it can be 95-99% on one end and in some relationships almost always so. Still, there’s often at least a little truth from the opposite perspective’s uhhhhh perspective.
In 1963 at Milton Academy, the same illustrious New England Prep School that Teddy Kennedy attended, I went storming into the headmaster's office to complain about anti-semitic harassment three upperclassmen were inflicting on a Jewish freshman.
The headmaster refused to act saying, "Usually there are lots of reasons for labels and labeling," or words very similar to those.