Why do you see this as a rebuke? Mary knew her Son was God incarnate and so brought it to his attention. Jesus was caught off guard and it was more like a surprise reaction but acknowledging Mary’s understanding of her Son as God.
**Jesus was caught off guard**
I’m sure you didn’t mean it quite that way, for the Lord has never been caught off guard. Mary certainly couldn’t fix the situation herself, but knew it would hurt to ask her son. She may have thought that his growing reputation as a preacher was sufficient to inspire the servants and his disciples to hastily work the neighborhood, and find some wine. She may have been as amazed as any present as to how it all unfolded.
While not what I would call a rebuke, he certainly let her know her place was not to try and direct him at this point in his life.
Why do you see this as a rebuke?
“Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come.”
And notice He did not call her “mother”.
It’s not a big deal, really, but I just notice that every single place in the gospels where Jesus encounters His mother, He does not hold her in “special” high esteem. You remember when His disciples told Him his mother and brothers were outside and his response?