I think you misunderstood. I agree with you on the Greek as far as the “what’s it to you and me”. What I meant was that she in effect caused Him to perform a miracle before He was really wanting to begin.
Good, you agree with the translation. In that translation is Jesus basically saying, “That’s no big deal for us.”
That doesn’t sound like Him being pushed to fast.
Besides, you don’t believe He could be pushed into doing something He didn’t want to do.
too fast