Hmm. I agreed with you, because you said this:
"Your joking right? The little girl adored her dad. He adored his daughter. The wife adored her husband. Weren't those children adorable at the Christmas program? Get the picture?"
...meaning, I thought, that it's silly to say these people --- the little girl, the dad, the husband, the wife ---are guilty of idolatry. Even though they said they "adored" each other, we all "get the picture" that they are not actually offering each other the true and supreme "adoration", latria, which is for God alone.
But now you seem to saying they ARE idolaters?
You seem to be contradicting yourself.
I must be misunderstanding you. Set my mind at ease. Please tell me you don't think the people in your example are idolators.
See how playing the word games gets all tangled up? Catholics try to play the word games to try to change the meaning of what they actually do. Using images to represent God is idolatry. Using images for who you pray to is idolatry. Mary has been elevated to goddess status and is worshipped and given the attributes of God. No word nuances are going to change that truth.