As a lifelong bachelor I am not cognizant of all the issues here. But it seems to me that if the partners don’t agree on a serious commitment to God, it’s going to be a throw of the dice whether it can work, or at the least keep from plunging into severe dysfunction.
I agree with Gerald O’Hara: if like doesn’t marry like, disaster follows. And middle-class and lower-class people shouldn’t take rich, Hollywood-types as their role models. Half the problems of America comes from imitating the multiple marriages and adulteries of Hollywood vulgarians.
Bingo! It took me more than one time to figure it out. For us God is first, she is second for me, children are third, and then the rest.