Posted on 12/14/2017 12:11:56 AM PST by Oshkalaboomboom
The Washington Post has done a surprising service by inadvertently revealing the damage having an abortion did to a woman who chose it.
Grace, profiled in the story, “The long five minutes: Abortion doulas bring comfort during a complicated time” is not just a doula, but also an abortion survivor. As such she has my compassion and understanding. #Metoo. It took me decades to work through the grief and guilt of child loss through abortion. My pain was complicated greatly by being told it was not, in fact, a child by the people who sold that abortion to me.
Can someone please explain to me why abortion is complicated if it is simply a medical procedure akin to a tooth extraction?
Grace’s story cries out for a response to this question. In her work as a labor and delivery doula, she facilitates families celebrating new life. She says her only experience of abortion was hearing a sermon at a Christian youth event and having her mother threaten to disown her if she ever had one.
But, of course, you’ve guessed. She then had one.
Her parents don’t know, and it seems important for her to shield them, or herself, from their judgments as she returns to their “conservative state” for a visit. The implication is that the parents’ lack of understanding is the only complication in her otherwise emotionally healthy and carefully considered choice.
We meet her as she is being trained to hold hands with patients during a vacuum aspiration abortion.
She’s being told by DC Doulas for Choice trainer Lindsey to go along with the patient’s words: “If someone getting an abortion calls it a baby, it’s a baby,” Lindsey said. “If she calls it a fetus, it’s a fetus. If she doesn’t say anything, don’t talk about it.”
As the story goes, “[T]his is what they were signing up for: To be in a surgical room with a woman through one of the most intimate emotional experiences of her life; to hold her hand while she has an abortion.”
Again, does anyone characterize any other “long five minutes” of medicine as an “intimate emotional experience”?
Not to worry, they train the volunteers to dismiss distress—their own or their patients’—on any level.
“Some women might cry, and that was normal. Some women might feel only relief, and that was normal,” the author writes. “Some might feel guilty about their relief. Feel drowsy after anesthesia. Feel woozy . . . Have cramps. Laugh. . . Normal, normal, normal.”
If only abortion advocates would tell this truth: grief and guilt and prolonged mourning are normal reactions to participating in the death of an innocent human being! Instead they continue the double-speak of intimate, complicated, emotional experiences while assuring women that no one suffers emotionally in the long run because it’s just ending a pregnancy—nothing more.
Grace’s choice to go to work in the industry to try to correct the isolation she felt at her abortion mirrors the stories of several others, who found that compassion without truth is a counterfeit at best.
There’s Abby Johnson who had two abortions before becoming a star at Planned Parenthood in Texas. And Jewels Green who, even as a teen, wanted her child, but was forced to abort, and then ended up working in the abortion industry as a way to come to terms with her loss. (Interesting to note that the hand-holding function of the doula is seen by Green as a form of coercion, “You don’t have to leave. You’ll be OK.”). Carol Everett made a lot of cash selling abortions in Dallas after her abortion.
These women and many others have said they believed they were helping women when they entered the abortion industry. Some admitted an agenda behind the hand-holding role. But as time went on, in the reality of the daily presence of death, they found healing by embracing the simple truth that what had appeared complicated was elegantly simple: Abortion is killing an innocent human being, and therefore it is morally wrong.
Embracing that painful truth sets the stage for the good news: We have the remedy for every wrong through our faith in Jesus Christ.
I thank God for ministry being offered to help abortion workers get out, and to help in their healing.
Through faith many of us have found the redemption available to all for any participation in abortion. Our recovery stories stand as a voice of sanity in the self-reliant alternate reality where the veneer of ‘normal’ so thinly veils a world of hurt emanating from our tell-tale hearts.
The most scandalous thing about this piece is how it reveals the abject negligence on the part of the provider to screen women for the peer-reviewed research findings of the known risk factors likely to cause serious mental health problems in the aftermath of the abortion.
Grace is troubled by this screening gap too, but she’s trained not to care by Lila, the doula she shadows. She wonders what happens to women like the patient in obvious distress offered nothing more than the 5-minute comfort routine. Fellow trainee Lila reminds her the women came “for one reason. If they left and they were no longer pregnant, then they had found what they were looking for.”
What a neat way to erase any actual complication! Was the patient a victim of domestic violence? A sex worker threatened by her pimp? A depressed woman with no emotional capacity to process this loss? A poor woman who simply lacked the means to parent? No worries. They still did a great job if she left having completed that abortion. And Lila is right about one other thing, there will be zero effort to follow up with any of these women. They got what they came for. End of story.
Although this article appears in the Style section, the writer can’t help throwing in references to politics and abortion bans, while failing to illuminate that a 20-week abortion involves either the dismemberment or death by poisoning of an innocent human being just days from viability. Instead she appropriates that battle as a pretext to create a nobility for abortion work: “… all of them banking on the fact that five minutes with a stranger was volunteer work that could make a difference in an issue that went to the moral core of America.”
Again, if there is not another human life taken in every abortion, what is the moral dilemma?
Young women deserve better than this.
They need to be told clearly that science proves life begins at conception and that by the time she knows she is pregnant her baby has a beating heart. They need help to reason through the reality that abortion denies basic justice to another member of the human family, a frail and utterly dependent child, their child. They need to know that if they had an abortion the likelihood that their parents will disown them is small, and that the risk of honesty is the best gift they can ever give their parents and themselves. They need to know the true choice freely available in the pregnancy help community.
They need God’s love, shown through people willing to do more than hold their hands for five minutes and gaslight them that their anguish is normal.
And they need true recovery and renunciation from abortion and its polluting effects on our souls.
I WONDER IF ALL THE REPBULCIANS WHO FOUGHT AGAINST MOORE REALIZE HOW FAR THEY PUSHED THE ABORTION AGENDA?!!?!?
The soul knows the truth, even when the mind does not.
It is a real loss for the “would-have-been” grandparents. I don’t have any grandchildren and never will due to the leftist agenda. So it is not really just a woman’s choice when thought of in a broader way.
I wonder how many realized that the attorney who brought forth Moore’s accusers, Gloria Allred, was the attorney who represented “ Roe” in the ‘” Roe vs Wade” case that legalized abortion n the US that has killed millions of children, some up to the moment before live birth.
I didn’t realize it.
It seems to have gotten even worse. Now the ghouls are snuffing the life out of newborns. See Emile Weaver and Brooke Skylar Richardson.
I only read portion to where it seems it’s now a paid position to stand by and hold the hand of a woman having an abortion.
People are being paid to comfort a woman allowing murder to occur within her?
How twisted the mind who thinks this helps anyone, since it only adds another person in the sin against God and the woman’s body.
Abortion is the sacrament of the left, and Abortion doulas are the acolytes of the ceremony.
quote of the day:
The soul knows the truth, even when the mind does not.
The left are really the agents of the Devil. They pervert everything they touch. This is what the original meaning of doula:
Doula
a trained professional who provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support to a mother before, during and shortly after childbirth to help her achieve the healthiest, most satisfying experience possible.
Another example is rainbow, this wonderful God’s creation, which they turned into a symbol of perversion. To name just a few.
Yeah, I can understand that...allowing some psychopath that claims to be a doctor to insert a pair of scissors into your womb, chop up a viable, living human child, then suck the parts out and discard them in the nearest dumpster...that would probably bother me, too, and I don't even have a womb.
Now, if you were the victim of some Chicago street thug or some MS-13 puke with tattoos on every square inch of his body, then there might be some justification...which can be remedied within days of the rape, but, somehow, I don't think that's the problem.
Somehow, I think you're just a dizzy broad that spread her legs and came to regret your sleazy one-night stand and waited too long.
Yeah, yeah, I can understand your "pain".
Not.
Next time just take an aspirin...which you clamp between your legs with your knees and hold that position until your moment of unbridled passion passes.
I have a Leftist friend who found a receipt for an abortion, when she was changing the sheets in her daughter’s room. Her daughter was 22 at the time but still living at home. My friend cried at the loss of a grandchild and there were no words I could use to consol her. The grandparents are never a consideration when it comes to ‘getting rid of an unwanted pregnancy’. It’s the ‘Me Generation’ on steroids. Prayers for all those babies, gone for convenience only.....and for those who wanted those babies but didn’t have the opportunity to voice an opinion.
My mind utterly rejects those words. I vomit them out like poison.
I didn’t. And i’m sickened by it but now her disgusting fame makes sense.
I’m from NY. I expect horrible voting.
Crushed by Alabamans. I dont want to hear msm blah blah
They can read and seek out info and knew the letter was partially forged.
Dont want to hear about how great southern voting is for a few days.
And i know NO ONE who goes from north to Alabama.
heartbreaking that they would vote an abortion lover in
Norma McCorvey aka “’Roe” poses outside the Supreme Court with her attorney. Gloria Allred
Allred may have been McCorvey's attorney when that picture was taken (1989) WRT the case she was involved in then but it was not the Roe V. Wade decision which was in 1973.
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