I found her stated reason for giving up observance disingenuous.It's as if a parent would say, "I'm going to stop all the obligations, rituals and observances related to being a parent because 'there's no warmth coming back'".Such a person misunderstands whatparenting is all about and is entirely self centered ( and probably manipulative and controlling as well). It's also possible that "there's no warmth coming back" because she's , well, just not very likable; people like that seldom are.