<p>To Bernadette Darby, Joseph Darby is the hero husband who sounded the cry about prisoner abuse in Iraq.</p>
<p>But to the upstate woman who says Darby proposed to her, the whistleblower is a lying, two-timing rat.</p>
<p>Julie Eckert, 25, says Darby told her he was divorced before proposing to her in November 2002.</p>