Posted on 12/10/2007 7:07:25 AM PST by RogerFGay
No other topics I write about so consistently provoke passionate personal response as those dealing with systemic discrimination against men. When, for example, I point out double standards for boys and girls in the health care system, or expose the use of bogus statistics around domestic violence, my inbox fills with male gratitude simply for acknowledging an obvious fact: Our culture is profoundly misandric.
Of the myriad forms of discrimination men cite, one looms over the rest: The egregious treatment meted out to fathers in the throes of contested child custody following the "no-fault" divorces most of them did not initiate or desire. My files bulge with stories of disenfranchised fathers ripped from their children's arms and lives. They have lost their homes, their careers, fortunes, friends and reputations, often on the basis of false allegations of abuse (for which their female accusers are virtually never punished). I wouldn't mention such anecdotal evidence, if the anguish in these testimonials didn't jibe with objective data confirming the shameful gender bias that dominates the family law system.
About half of all marriages end in divorce. Women are twice as likely to initiate a divorce as men, largely because they can be fairly sure they'll end up with control of the children. Where shared parenting is the default template, divorce rates plummet. Men are six times as likely as women to commit suicide within the first two years after a separation: That they kill themselves from despair rather than their ex-wives for revenge is, ironically, a tragically eloquent rebuttal to the feminist credo that men are inherently dangerous to women. Although 25% of women make more money than their spouses, 97% of support payers are men (even in cases of shared parenting). Mobility decisions favour women: The psychological comfort to a Vancouver mother of moving near her Toronto-based family will be privileged over the psychological devastation the virtual loss of his children causes the Vancouver-bound father.
Misandry in family law begins with an ideology that views children as the property of women, even though many peer-reviewed studies show children want and need both parents, and no studies show sole parenting by a mother serves children's best interests. This ideology is instilled in judges during training sessions featuring feminism-driven materials, and subsequently often plays out as unaccountable kangaroo courts. The result is that an adversarial mother who initiates a divorce against the will of the father --however indifferent her parenting skills, however superb his and even if the children spend their days with nannies or day care workers --pretty well has a lock on sole custody of the children. If she denies rightful access to the father, she will never be punished at all. Conversely, if he withholds money, he will be criminalized: His picture as a "deadbeat dad" may appear on government-sanctioned Internet sites, and if he goes to jail, as is likely, he will serve a longer sentence than cocaine dealers.
Most men think such kafkaesque scenarios can't happen to them. Happily married men parenting with equal diligence believe in their hearts that men who find themselves savaged by the family law system are congenital losers, or were demonstrably lousy husbands and fathers. Many such "winners" are in for an unpleasant surprise.
"We want to pull away from the idea that parents have rights in relation to their children," said Jennifer Cooper, chair of the Canadian Bar Association's family law section, representing 2,200 divorce lawyers. "Parents" in this statement is the hypocritical lip service feminism pays to humanism: She meant "fathers," for women's rights today are never "pulled away from," only supported or furthered. In the days when children belonged to both their parents, it used to be said that children were "hostages to fortune." Today they are hostages to feminism and the state.
In his new, cleverly titled book, Taken into Custody, Stephen Baskerville, president of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children, paints a bleak picture of the routine injustice a divorcing father can expect when a woman initiates a divorce. Baskerville baldly warns: "If I have one urgent piece of practical advice for young men today, it is this: Do not marry and do not have children." His book, like many others of the genre, makes a persuasive case. Men should read them. If the system does not become equitable, don't be surprised if men choose increasingly, and with reason, to play their trump card: Voting for equality with their condoms.
Yep.
I always have cold beer in the fridge and fresh sheets in the guest room.
And free rabbits to give away! (Think anyone would notice if I stuck antlers on them and told them they were baby reindeer?)
My business partner is living the result of not following this advice as we speak.
She dated him, lied about the birth control, had not one but two kids, and is now pulling up stumps after he has killed himself providing for them.
He has next to no rights, and she has all of them and knows it. He’s a husk right now. She hoodwinked him into get her pregnant, and when she had the kids, made them his own.
Now she’s bailing, and hoodwinking another guy back in Spokane into being an insta-dad.
Freakin’ evil.
You have bunnies? I have a bunny!
That sounds like a hyperbolic statement, wide asleep. It is irrefutable that two thirds of divorces are initiated by women and that the facts which she spoke of, are true.
That being the case, it probably makes more sense from a safety point of view to be wary of traditional marriage. Black men seem to have the right idea, for the most part they dont marry and you have to track them down to get them to own up to having kids. Much more clever than the "white" way of doing this hookup thing.
Why are religious fanatics like yourself so ready to condemn people who rely on facts you are uncomfortable with?
Men need to ban together and overturn Roe v Wade. Their rights to their children must start at conception.
Events that have yet to occur are facts to you?
You do!?
What kind of bunny?
I had one,
then I had two (I thought the same gender)
then I had 8,
now I have 13....
Daddy bunny is SUCH a sneak!!!!
I would say do not marry unless you want children.....and the woman shares your views and goals and is willing to put her own validation below the needs of the family....and same for the man.
An older man ....especially one who has means....is a fool in today’s climate if he marries without an agreement unless he wants a late family with the right woman.
Slack men have nothing to lose and don’t care anyhow.
Men who are going somewhere in life or who have assets are at risk....make no mistake of it. Community property and loss of custody are clear and present dangers.
Choose carefully.
Sad it’s come to this.....women who need help get little and others get ridiculous alimony disguised as child support. Divorce is too easy and behavior is unaccountable.
*any man who takes alimony or her property from a woman ain’t no man.....
He was wandering the neighborhood a few weeks back and I took him in. Been looking for missing bunny posters, but apparently his previous owners aren't looking for him.
Daddy bunny is SUCH a sneak!!!!
Tell me about it! This little twerp...
Bun Bun a white/black English I got at a pet shop, to put in the aviary with the birds, outside. She got fed chow, but the apples, carrots, nuts etc that the birds ate half of, she ate the other half. She even eats corn shucks.
Sorta like a furry grounds cleaner.
THEN someone gave me Thumper, an English too. He was rescued from a local park with a pond, found hanging out with the ducks. He as one lopped/ragged ear and an attitude to match. HOWEVER, when he was given to me, I was told he was a girl....the teenage sons had checked (good lord! Teenage boys can’t see bunnyballs!!!)
Anyhow, it quickly became apparent that I had one of each....so the boy came inside to live and he goes out through the dog door to do his business and eat grass.
However, he has snuck into the aviary no less than 3 times (hence, 3 litters) so now he and son Petie live inside and I may have more boys with this last set....
He tries to act like hes one of the girls when he sneeks in, but that lopped, ragged ear gives him away every time!
BTW, it costs $75 to neuter a bunny....after Christmas....~~~sigh
Scheiße is convinced that he is the Alpha Male! He’s due for a ‘trim’ too.
I didn’t know he was a guy (didn’t think to look, I naïvely though that when you only have one, it doesn’t matter) until he started trying to hump my arm...
You are an imbecile.
LOL!
Well,
Thumper has been trying to hump Petie, it’s funny to watch cuz Petie trys to hump Thumper in return, so they just go around and around in circles.
Thumper has also ‘treed’ the cats on the DR table, made the dog take a wide berth around him, bit the rooster and in general, make it clear that it’s HIS house.
Yes sir.
Of course, of course.
So I take it that you yourself are unmarried or childless?
Or if you are a parent, you at least regret that your children were ever born in the first place?
Because if you have children and you are happy that they exist, then you have clearly disobeyed Mr. Baskerville's brilliant advice and are probably an imbecile yourself.
No, I was simply expressing the demonstrated fact that you don’t know shit from Shinola, that’s all. Nothing more complex than that.
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