I congratulate you on your wonderful marriage, but I have to disagree with you wideawake. I know your religious leanings and reasonings against divorce and I agree in principal but sometimes life just doesn’t work out how you plan it or want it. I think you are being a little smug and conceited. I think you forget that “but for the grace of God, there go I.” God forbid that anything should happen, but you haven’t seen tomorrow yet.
I remember people who used to say they, their spouse, or their kids would never do certain things only to see them eat their words. Life happens and people do sometimes change. So “Never say never” is also an apt adage.
I don’t remember the name of the prophet in the OT whose wife was a harlot. I’m thinking he put up with her but in those days it wasn’t like the wife could easily leave and make her own living either.
A perfect example of someone not being raised to do wrong is the Colorado shooter who grew up in a religious home. Who knows what could cause a person to do anything so reprehensible and obviously, his own family is left wondering why.
I’ve known couples who seemed to have good marriages split up after 30 yrs and yes, seemingly good Catholic couples. Something unforseen happens, someone gives in to temptation, a child dies, or they lose all their money and somehow they can’t seem to work together anymore. It is sad. There is usually one who wouldn’t divorce but has no say in the matter.
There are millions of people out there who put themselves first and as long as the marriage suits their needs then they’re fine but when they have to put some work into it, they leave and there is usually a spouse left wondering what the heck happened and there is nothing they can do about it.
I think you should count your blessings and continue to work on your marriage but realize that it is a gift from God and not really all your doing. You can cooperate with the will of God but you cannot make someone else do so.
Fair enough.
The point I have been laboring to make is that I treated the decision of whom to marry as the most important decision I would ever have to make and I made my decision very carefully.
I remember people who used to say they, their spouse, or their kids would never do certain things only to see them eat their words.
Well, it's very hard to predict what your children will do before they're grown.
But a person's character is pretty much in place by the time they are 25.
There are millions of people out there who put themselves first and as long as the marriage suits their needs then they’re fine but when they have to put some work into it, they leave and there is usually a spouse left wondering what the heck happened and there is nothing they can do about it.
Absolutely. My wife and I have already been through some very hard times (external circumstances, not internal betrayals) which I will not detail here and we have come through it stronger than before.
I think you should count your blessings and continue to work on your marriage but realize that it is a gift from God and not really all your doing.
Well said.