The answer....PRENUP.....getting married without one..INSANE
Prenups have long since been declared null and void by the courts. Marriage and family are no longer legally classified as private issues, and the consequences of divorce can no longer be related to private contracts, explicit or implied. The consequences are all dictated by arbitrary poltiical decisions. No one is allowed to escape them.
A potential spouse that proposes a prenup shouldn't be getting married in the first place.